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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My Boy friend of 6 months has been depressed for a while as he hated his job and left it, he then had a close friend die, now he is in finacial hardship and feels extremly depressed. He hasn't seen a doctor, well not that i'm aware of anyway. Last week he told me he wanted to have a break to sort himself out. I have gave him space and havent contacted him apart from a text message to say that I was still here for him and that I hoped we could still be friends he called me that night to say thanks for the message and that he loved me, we agreed to meet up this week but I still havent heard anything from him, I'm becoming more and more concerened as he has'nt seen much of his friends either. Should I persue this and try to talk to him and offer support and maybe suggest him seeing a doctor or should I respect his request to give him a break. I love him and of course I dont want to break up but the more I try the more he pushes me away. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): If you go completely all out break, then they might think your not there for them.
If you are all over them when they asked for space, they will learn to hate you and will find it stressful and irritating.
You need to find the balance between the do. Something you've found very well already.
You've given him space up to this point, and I think its time for a proper sit down chat with him. Text him and ask him where hes at with this, and if he asks for more space ask him how much more he needs. Say your concerned and that you want him to see a doctor to help him, with or without you.
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