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writes:Hey guys. I wrote in yesterday about me splitting up with my fiance of three years.(im 17) We were on a break then i told him i wasn't sure if i could be with him anymore but would think on it. Next thing i know he calls me to tell me he had slept with another girl who is 20 and has a baby of 9 months. He tried to apologize and ask me back but i said no. I asked him if he was with this girl and he said no he just needed time to think on things.( this was last night). Then today he texted me to say that he and her have actually decided to make a go of things. I feel so used and worthless. Then he started senting abusive message telling me they did it 8 times last night despite telling me he was alone. Is he just saying this to hurt me? Also i am falling for my boss who is 47 and he said that he is in love with me. He owns a pub and we work in the kitchen together and he is the nicest guy i could meet. He always makes me feel good about myself where as fiance was manipulative and insecure. Do i try and win ex back or go for my boss?
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reader, emma26690 +, writes (6 April 2007):
 firstly you're 17, at 17 do you really know that this guy is the person you want to be with for the rest ofyourlife. from what ive readhe hasnt treatedyou verywell, maybe you should take a bit of time to digestrather than either going back to him or starting a newrelationship. Think about his baby, 9 months old + the 9 months she was carrying it, thats 18months he knew he had a child and he never said anything? thats appauling! as for your boss, i know exactly where yourcoming from, my married boss has been hitting on me and weve become closefriends. its not good because everyone at work is jealous and it doesnt please his wife. hes 47 -- what will yourparents say? if in a couple of months your boss is still patient then maybe you should talk to him, have a drink, see where it goes! if i was you i would leave the ex an ex, take some time to think about the boss and most importantly take some time for YOURSELF!I hope this has helped you, just think about yourself thats the most importanat thing! Emma xXxXxXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): I think you need to walk away from both of these blokes and have some time alone. You are 17 and have been engaged for 3 years! Did he meet you in the infant school?? You are much too young for all of this hassle. Just ignore your ex's text, phone messages and change your phone number. Keep the relationship with your boss, he is way too old for a start. Remain working there if you want, but personally i would get another job. Find someone who you so deserve.
Take care
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Looks like you're in a bit of a messy situation right now.
First of all, your cheating ex-fiancé is saying these things to hurt you, he has no other reason to rub it into your face that he and his new girlfriend did it 8 times last night.
As for getting together with your boss, I would wait a while if I were you. If you get together with him now and it doesn't work out, then it will be uncomfortable for you to continue working at your current place.
Let yourself calm down. Get over the feelings of anger/frustration/sadness that are left over from the breakup and then you can re-evaluate your situation and see if you still want to get together with your boss.
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