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writes:Okay, I have a question......The man i'm in love with is getting married in three months when I called him to tell him I was relocating to another city after I heartbreakingly watched him be told by my pastor to officially get engaged to her on the platform as he got on his knee to ask her....he once again for the third time begged me not to leave and finally to me " I Love You, you can't leave, please don't go you can't do that please before you do anything talk to pastor." I balled out in tears for the first time in front of him and he sound a bit shook upped himself over the phone. See our problem was people we asked to help us start dating and being around each other more after a while of being friends and getting close and reuniting our old childhood flame people would get really jealousy and make a way to not let us see each other. Now near where i'm standing or at least close by, he always tells his friends how good i look when I put my hair up a certaint outfits that i may throw together. His best friend knows everything between us.how do I know that there was a possibility he even carees about me in such way? He always stares at me, gets really loud when he's near me, always wants to be near or close by ect...Always telling his best friend about how he feels about me. Now the question is.... what do I do if he's getting married in three months but i never told him I love, I only told him I liked him two years ago and the girl he's getting married to is gossipping about me since the whole thing happened and she hates me...and he says he loves me but is begging me to stay. what do I do in a situation like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): Hi everyone I was the one who originally asked the question thanks for all the help regarding my situation. Okay so I finally told him how I felt...he was in straight denial and we had emailed one another and he told me it wasn't a good idea to meet in person to talk about it he doesn't want me calling, texting, or emailing him. He was saying how he never felt anything for me and he didn't understand how everything thing got so out of hand and we shouldn't have anything to do with each other...and she is the love of his life and he wants to enjoy this time with her without drama. That she never hated me and he doesn't hate me as well. He can't really speak for her after all the problems she caused in my life as well as him and he still keeps siding with her. So this is a done deal for me even though it doesn't change how I feel for him but I'm walking away from it all its just leading to more trouble. I don't want to end up with regrets. The problem is he has a tendency to show up wherever I am and try to talk to me. I just let him stay with her and let them be together. The Guy is clearly crazy and he still all over my Facebook and he doesn't even have an account. He said I made it look like we we're involved or that I was making it sound like he was calling me or coming to my house...which I never did I was always posting what was going on with him and I. About how I couldn't read him and why was he not being truthful with me. He was always hiding from himself and from me leaving me unsure about the whole thing.God has showed me he will replace him with someone else. I need to be treated like a queen...not a harlot or mistress. And I have a funny feeling that when he starts having problems with her he will try to get me to have an intimate relationship with him. I will back out and have nothing to do with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2012): Tell him how you feel. Its your last chance. And if he would leave his fiance then it means it would have been a mistake for them to get married anyway and you would be doing her a favor that he leaves her now rather than after they get married and have kids.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 April 2012):
 I don't care if this is arranged marriage or some mega financial deal, there must be a reason he is getting married to this woman. You want to let him know how you feel so he would encourage you to be his mistress? He is the kind of man I won't respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2012): I think you should probably tell him how you feel, but I think he is still going to walk down the aisle with her. Don't allow yourself to be in the middle of a love triangle. He obviously has been spending time with her as he has proposed to her. He may have feelings for you, but he PROPOSED TO HER! Move on with your life. Take the job elsewhere & enjoy your life....with someone else. Congradulate him & wish them well.
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