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writes:My girlfriend has been in serious relationship with me for 1 year. She was genuinely interested in me all through the year. But when her parents opposed to our marriage, she hasn't called me up ever since. I have to mention that in Indian culture, parents decision is considered with great importance. We were involved physically too. I don't seem to understand why she did this to me. When in the relationship, I asked her several times if she would come out of her house, if her parents didn't accept and she said YES. I gave her the liberty to discuss things with her parents and now she obeys them. She's no longer in contact with me. It's been more than a month and I'm just not able to get over her. I loved her with all my heart. I'm feeling very low because I'm an emotional person who has been dreaming to spend the rest of my life with her. Now that she has left, I'm unable to get over her. She hasn't even called once to know how I am after the incident. I have always been true and genuine to her. I wouldn't expect another girl to come into my life. Please suggest me what I should be doing. :(
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reader, yiharbin  +, writes (28 March 2010):
an extreamly similar things hapened to me. what ive learned is that girls mean what the say FOR THE MOMENT. my girlfriend always promised that we'd be together forever and that she'd do anything for me, that she loved me and we'd be together even if her parents dissagreed. well, she left me because of her parents. life's a real bitch
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): dear man...
i am now in a situation exactly like u.. the only difference is that i have been in relationship with her for the past 2 years. And all in a sudden she left me without even informing me for her parents. I wonder how girls can change. i don't know what happened to her promises. She even dont want to hear whats happening on my side..i am almost dead now... i loved her truly from my heart..and still i care for her a lot than anyone.. i am ready to accept her if she reutrns now.. what will i do? why cant she think abt the time we spent together... will god ever forgive her.. i miss my soul mate..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): My girl left me too becouse of parent despite i live i liberal country, and girls can do anything they want ;(. I know how you fell. What to do? I dont know. But i know too, that people have fight for their love, becouse it is most important thing in world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): hello, i saw your post and i thought i would reply because i understand the indian culture because i too am indian, you know how hard it is for a girl to disrespect her parents, i would never dream of it, however, if you are pretty sure that she wanted to choose you over her family then maybe her family are keeping her away from you against her will? maybe you need to speak to one of her female friends/sister to pass a message or a letter on, and wait for a reply. im sorry that you are going through such a hard time, are you both the same religion/caste? maybe that is a problem?my friend, if you do not hear from her, you must realise that she did care a lot for you, for you both to be involved physically is frowned upon in india before marridge, so she took a risk then for you.sometimes when you care for someone so much you have to let them go, if they come back to you, then most often they are yours for forever, if not, then it is not meant to be,kind regards and god bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Have you tried talking to her parents? They might not feel like they know you well enough or your feelings, so explain to them how much you love their daughter and would be willing to sacrifice for her. You cant tell her to go against her parents - this musnt be easy for her either, you know. She obviously loved you, and probably still does. So what I would say is go talk to her parents! This could make a world of difference, show them you would be a great guy for their daughter. Good luck :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Hi Hunny
Im so sorry to here of your pain, You are going to go through a grieving period Im going to send you a link to help you and also while you are going through this pain hunny feel free to message me anytime as you will go through all different feelings as time goes on, Some of the link wont apply to you but its of good help and you need to self help now before you get really depressed ok darling..
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up
I hope this help sweetheart TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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