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anonymous
writes:I and my female first cousin are of the same age(17 yrs).We were in love from our very childhood(9 yrs) as well as we shared a tight friendship.We used to meet each other many a times.At night,we slept side by side and used to hold our hands,arms and I even kissed her neck ,cheeks,hands.When we got 13 we had our first kiss.She responded to my kiss with happiness.But,my fate is not on my side.I am a patient of a genetic disease which takes away all the working abilities of muscles.The destruction of muscles started off bit by bit as soon as I was born.Earlier I was more or less normal.But,during the time I was 13,my walking power switched off along with a great fall in my abilities.From then,my cousin suddenly ceased everything romantic.I tried not to mind anything,because it is natural that a physically handicapped person can't be a lover of a good girl(i.e.my cousin).One day I asked her why she ceased.She told me that she was never in love with me nor she did the romantic acts intentionally,but I know she is hiding her love for me because when I kissed her the last time she responded to it.She wants me as her bestest best friend now.I try to suppress my mind so that it forgets the romantic love.But,I don't know how I can forget,so I cry often in a day.My disease is incurable still now.I must have ended my life but I have taken a vow that I'll never leave her best friendship that she now gives me.I never want to cease this romantic love with my cousin,but to soothe my pain I should be forgetting all these.What can I do to forget all this romantic love?
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reader, kittycupid  +, writes (3 January 2009):
Well ... to me it's not who they are but how they make you feal, and as cousins are not against the law that side doesnt matter.. perhaps just tell your cousin how you feel, or just live life as now and see how the future takes you. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Just bear in mind that in this world there's someone for everyone - it's just a matter of finding that person. Unfortunately for you this person would not appear to be your cousin so you would be as well to focus your attention elsewhere. Maybe she told you she was never in love with you because it was an easy way out for her, and that it was the least hurtful way of telling you she didn't want to be with you, whatever the real reason may be. Only she knows that.
I recently read an informative and interesting newspaper article about genetic abnormalities particularly affecting people from the Indian sub-continent where marriage to a first cousin is more common than elsewhere. There has been a much higher incidence of deafness and other problems in children down through the generations, in particular where not only the child's parents, but also their grandparents and great-grandparents were first cousins. You don't say exactly what your disability is called, but maybe you are a victim of this 'in-breeding', and I'm sure you wouldn't want to pass this on to your own children in due course.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (29 February 2008):
 well to be quite honest love between cousins often results in a higher incidence of genetic diseases as although its not incestous cousins share quite a bit of DNA.
maybe to make yourself feel better about losing this relationship imagine your children having genetic dieases because you had them with your cousin. Then think that by finding someone you are not related to you are preventing your offspring fro suffering like you are with this muscle disorder.
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