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*izzaguy
writes:Well I met a girl about 26 months ago....she is perfect, we are perfect for each other. We had a perfect 9 month relationship, then she had to move away with her family. We have been doing long distance for more than a year...almost two...We were perfectly in love and it was all great.I think I might have ruined it though...About 8 months into the LDR, idk what went wrong with me but I started being a jerk to her and watching sports on tv instead of talking to her, now that I look back at what I did, I feel disgusted at myself. Its like i turned into another person, I barely told her that I loved her anymore and i just ignored her while she begged me to talk to her..., which was very wierd of me since she is my world...Well yea, after the two month period of me being stupid i visited her for the first time in a year. we had a good time...But now she is telling me that she doesn't feel the same as she used to before what I did to her. She say's that she cant forget what I did and that she doesnt feel the "magic" we used to have. She says that she wants to feel it again but she cant!!!!!I really regret what i did, and I tell that it wont happen again and that I was stupid,.... but how do i make her feel "it" again? I cant imagine losing this girl, she is my everything and, I just love her!Advice anyone? thanks! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Try telling her that she is your everything. And no matter what stands in your way don't EVER push her away. I'm in a situation similar to that, but the guy i love is trying to stop his feelings. And i just feel like giving up. You should never let anything stop you from loving someone forever. And if she's worth it then marry her, promise her everything and just pray she accepts...
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 This is just a suggestion that sometimes works when I wish to feel something or if I wish to make someone feel a specific thing. You reminisce with her about those deep moments you had and you talk just a little bit about why you loved those moments, when you feel that her mind has truly delved into those memores start becoming the man you were before and start treating her well again. In a way you are merging the mood of those memories with the reality of 'here and now' and go from there. That may or may not work.
Make an effort to talk to her and do little things like message her to tell her that you love her or that you miss her.
The next time you visit her, make an effort to make sure she smiles with you and is given a touch of near-mystical fantasy. There is a reason why sunsets and a soft beach under star-lit skies are so stereotypical for romance, things of great beauty are often glimmering with that sense of wonder I think your girlfriend is looking for. So make that perfect romance happen in a perfect romantic setting so she will find that same sense of fantasy she felt before. Make sure you never do anything like that again so she will know that she has your heart in the palm of her gentle hands. Make it something worth keeping.
I hope that helps.
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