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writes:i slept with a lad and a girl who doesn't like me found out she rang him and asked him if it was true and he denied it.i feel that everyone is going to think i'm lying what shall i do? help Reply to this Question
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reader, markanthonyv0  +, writes (6 April 2007):
Think about it this way, for what reason would the person you slept with keep the fact you had sex with him a secret? Does he know that you want him to admit to it whenever someone asks him about it? Have you spoken to him about it? I'll leave you with this, no one can read minds, we can only assume.(there is a quote that says when you "ASSuME", you make an ASS out of yoU and ME)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): First of all I'm not sure why you care about this at your age. People tend to be a little more discreet about who theyre sleeping with when they get to your age and don't tell anyone. I can't see any other way this girl couldve found out if you didnt tell her. The guy you slept with obviously values his and your privacy more than you do because he denied it to protect you but I can't see why it bothers you that people will think you're lying. Who cares?
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reader, _Hannah_ +, writes (5 April 2007):
The Old Saying/meaning what ever you want to put it as 'as long as you know your right, that's all that matters.'
yeah People are going to think your lying. But the ones that know you, and know the truth are going to see him for the lyer he is. and to be honest the ones that trust you are far more important then the ones that dont.
And...its just playground stlye gossip as soon as something 'more intresting' comes along, No one will even remember. That's what you want eh?
Peace.out
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): Maybe he's worried about how this girl would react if she found out that it was true that he slept with you. Lets put you in his situation, what would you do if a boy who doesn't like the guy you slept with asked you if you slept with the guy you slept with. You would deny it wouldn't you? Maybe he doesn't want his private life being told to everybody.
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reader, LittleTwoLegs +, writes (5 April 2007):
 ...Why was this being spread around in the first place? It sounds kind of shady...
But I'd advise just to keep cool and nonchalant about it. I don't really think that kind of talk should be office news in the first place, but as long as you keep a cool front and don't let anyone see that is flusters you they'll probably lose interest and it won't be a big deal. If they ask you about it simply something suggestive, but don't flat out tell them every detail. If they tell you they don't believe it just reply, "It doesn't matter to me, I'm satisfied enough on my own, I don't need anyone's approval about it."
Best, also, to remember to not kiss and tell, because it just creates silly drama and no mystique. If it's all underwraps not only is it fun keeping the secret and smiling when no one knows why, but you'll also have mroe chances of continuing the fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): I wouldn’t speak with him again… I wouldn’t care what anybody thought either, and if they asked me I’d say I did sleep with him and he was shit… nothing to brag about!!! Then if they say well he said he hadn’t slept with you I’d say, and I’m bothered because? Then finish the conversation by saying…. It was one shit night I’m not bothered if he told the whole world he didn’t sleep with me, I know the truth and then I’d walk away!!!
Take Care
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