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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi guys! I started chatting to a girl on Tinder a week ago, just 2 days later, we went on a date. it went really well, none stop talking and laughing. when I got home she messaged saying thanks for a fun afternoon. I asked if she'd like to go out again and she said yes what shall we do. So I said we could go for a drink, or I could cook or we could jump on a plane, she said lets do all three. I thought that was a good positive response. Anyway, we met up again a couple of nights after, and had our first kiss, and then the next night we saw each other. I really like this girl, she's got so many shared interests with me and a similar sense of humour.She's suddenly stopped putting kisses in her messages, I know some people would say they are just messages, but I dont understand why this would suddenly happen, how am I best asking/ finding out? I'm the kind of person that likes to know where I stand but do t want to come across as heavy, please can you guys give me some advice?? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 June 2016):
 Unless she has began ignoring your messages or being cold I would not read to much in to kisses at the end of a message. It means absolutely nothing. Go by what she is saying to you and how you both are getting on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2016): Thank you very much for your advice! I think your spot on actually!
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reader, DarrellG +, writes (20 June 2016):
 I would be extrmely weary of reading too much into this. Kisses on text messages or social media messages mean the sum total of zip - so she put them and now she hasnt. Be careful of being hypersensative here, its understandable, you obviously have high hopes for this girl and thats cool but I think you need to be a bit gentle.
I would honestly say don't bother asking at all because my concern is that no matter what way you ask it its going to come accross as heavy. I genuinely cant see how you can frame it so it doesnt come accross that way - sorry. Your not at the stage where asking those questions will cause anything but problems I dont think.
I would focus on when your next meeting for real. If she starts putting that off or there is a change in her attitude then I think you thinking something is amiss is more valid and then I do think you really need to speak to her to find out whats going on.
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