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writes:Okay..so lets get it started... I'm 15 years old and about to go into yr 11 however since yr 8 i've been in love with my female pe teacher! I love her so much and would do anything to b with her, but she has a bf already =[. I've told my mates and even my mum knows, i feel like none of them accept me and i so desperatly want to tell this teacher, if there is even a chance of us being together i would take it. What do i do? Also just to prove how serious i am, last year i was gonna move to cornwall but was so upset and slit my wrists. I wanted to stay and i just wanted my life to end. My mum thinks i did it because of leaving my friends but its because of her. Am i obsessed? Will the pain ever end? I'$m so upset all the time. I feel like i could tell her but i know i can't because she is teaching me next year and it would only ruin our relationship that we have as a teacher and student or ruin the relationship she has with her bf! Help please! What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, fii +, writes (2 March 2011):
hi,i am in the same situation as you and it really sucksim 16 female, and im in love with my female sport teacher who has just turned 30 i've only felt like this for about 7 months but its growing stronger i can just tell but im not goin go dare to tell her and i dont think you should either although it is soo hard sometimes just act like your mates and work it out that way :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): dw i have the exact same problem me and her are both girls and i just cant stop thinking about her i go bright red whenever i talk to her about ANYTHING its horrible but my one dont have a bf =) but i know nothing will never happen between us because say we started going out and it got spread her whole career would be over. so i could never do anything about it i could talk to her but im not quite sure:S hope i helped =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): I see were you coming from. i am going through exacly the same thing as you. Im 16 a girl in year11 and i love my female PE teacher who has just turned 29. I used to self half, don't. It get's you know where, don't beat yourself up about your feelings. You cant help who you fall for even if there is an age gap and the same sex. Your perfectly normal. I was also thinking about telling my teacher aswel, but i still have another two years with her as i want to do A level PE. I suggest telling her when you leave school, then you and her can't get done for it. That's what im going to do, tell her when i leave, then i know ive finally got it out in the open. I just want her soo much, it's been going on for two years now, she is all i tihnk about. When ever im around her my heart goes fast and i get wierd feelings in my stomach when our eyes connect. I hang out with my friends to help keep my mind of her, and enjoy playing football and hockey. What are your hobbies and interests?I hope you do get over her soon, and remember that you are normal and that you shouldn't feel bad for liking the same sex, its perfectly normal and you cant help who you fall for.I hope this was some kind of advise for you xxx
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reader, rockstar23  +, writes (13 August 2008):
Well you ought to tell your pe teacher before she and her b/f gets really serious and before you drive your self insane cause of how you feel. I'm in a different situation and having trouble myself. My situation is i have a 16 yr. old g/f and i'm 24. Her mom found out yesterday after 6 months of us being together now i gotta stay away from her til the legal age. We work together so its gonna be hard. You just gotta put your fear aside and just come out and say how you feel cause if you don't tell her then you'll regret it for the rest of your life trust me. I've been there before too. Anyways, hope this has helped.
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reader, thats_not_my_name +, writes (3 August 2008):
 hey! oh my gosh this pain sounds very familair indeed! unrequited love for a teacher.....absoulutly sucks doesn't it? well first thing i'll say is you are not alone! i've been in love or obessesed or whatever you want to call it with my physics teacher for a year and a month now (not tht i'm counting or anything!) and it really really hurts doesn't it? it may be difficult for your mum and friends to understand your feelings but trust me what you are going through is perfectly normal. :) secondly i would advise you not to tell the teacher about your feelings. i kno how much you want to be with her...if i had a chance to get together with my teacher, i take it in a second! but like you said she already has a bf and although this really isn't what you want to hear, the chances of her liking you back are slim. you seem to have a very sensible attitude already to the situation and you have thought well about the consquences of your actions. i suggest that you just enjoy the relationship you already have, the student-teacher one. and try not to let the pain get you down. i kno it seems like you'll never love anyone else but i'm sure you will. the obessession will stop one day, it may take time and it may not be until you leave school, but one day you'll find someone else who you feel so strongly about and even better, they'll like you back! so if you are feeling really down, try and organise something that will cheer you up. hang out with your friends, have fun! good luck, i hope everything works out and remember that you can always talk to people on here if you feel like no-one else understands. message me if you want any more advice and i'll try and help! hope this helped xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): look, if u really love her than u should tell her. I wouldnt care what anyone else thought. u've told almost everyone else. they just might go and tell her for u themselves. u should just tell her how u feel.
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reader, JustPlainAmanda +, writes (2 August 2008):
JustPlainAmanda is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanxs for your excellent advice! it has helped me and this site has helped me realise i am not alone on this matter.
the reason i did self harm was because i couldnt bare life without her and i thought that if i was to kill myself i would always be with her. i have got over this matter now and am just enjoying our relationship...
thanxs again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): HiWow! first love....it is painful and we all have to experience this, it is part of maturing into adulthood and understanding that we are growing into a young adult with feelings and desires. I will not say it is a crush because right now these feelings are very real to you, so i respect that. However what i would suggest is that you do not tell your teacher of your feelings because if she is going to be your teacher next year it could prove quite awkward, as you say yourself. you may well still have feelings for this teacher next year or you may not, sometimes love changes as we develop more into our adulthood. You say you are obsessed by her, that is a strong word... maybe there is something about this teachers personality that you particularly like, is it because you find that she excepts you..you said you didn't feel excepted by some people, so you feel good and safe around her? I Think you sound like a very intelligent young lady. understanding that telling her would not be a good idea and probably a waste of time, as she is in a straight relationship anyway. I think the real issue here, was your need to self harm, you are hurting about something and if it is about your sexual tendencies, please do not self harm you are not a bad person for liking the same sex, if this is how you feel? You have thought about her boyfriends feelings and this is an admiral quality in you and says how caring you are. please care about you and start to explore YOU more before anyone else.
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