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writes:im a freshman in high school. been through a ton of boyfriends, but never felt the way i do about this guy..i am seriously madly in love with him, but the thing is, he just asked out my friend and they are going to a movie....how the heck do i tell her that i love him without ruining our friendship, and telling him i love him without making a fool of myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, kle7 +, writes (25 September 2008):
I have to say that I agree with rhythmandblues2. I remeber highschool (I'm a senior in college (21yrs) now so I'm not that old)but trust me you'll get over him. I used to hate it when everyone used to tell me that I was too young to know what love is! But I have to admit that it was true, I was too young, and so are you. You may REALLY REALLY like this guy or the IDEA of this guy being your bf, but do you truely love him? What do you know about him? Have the two of you been through any rough times? Or better yet, do you even know his favorite kind of pizza?This is not to be mean or harsh in any way so please don't take it that way.You have to look at the facts here.... you say that she is your friend right? Then you don't cross that line. She obviously likes him too or she wouldn't of said yes when he asked her out. NEVER go after a guy that your friend likes or has liked before. He's pretty much "Untouchable" from now on. It's highschool, you'll be over him by next month (not to be light of your situation at all, but it's the truth). Just keep your friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): You don't. He chose her, he asked her out, he is into her, not you.... You can't be madly in love with someone and never even gone out with him.
You are what is referred to as infatuated. You are creating an IDEA of him based on what you want to see and filling in the blanks with what you want and hope for. Let this go or you are going to mess up a friendship and make a fool of yourself. If you tell this guy you love him he will either laugh, or take advantage of you depending on his character and you don't really know him well enough to guage the depth of his character.
He may not ask her out on a second date....bide your time and remain cool and friendly with both people, and let him do the choosing. If you really like him then you chasing him is about 100% likely to scare him off permanently.
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