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writes:I was on a holiday with my friends three months ago and one night we were out in a club and we met a few guys thinking nothing of it i got really close to one of them and we kind of just stuck together for the rest of the holiday we had a great time and i really liked him, we never actually asked each others ages? he looked about 21-23 and i am 17 going 18 this year. He was gorgeous with the most amazing smile and biggest brown eyes. After we came home we went out a few times too. We had holiday pictures on facebook and stuff and texted quite often. We stopped talking for about 2 weeks and then on a normal monday morning shockingly i seen him walking into a classroom in my school! i thought i was seeing things but it was true He was the new teacher in my school! When he saw me he was just as shocked as i was. He texted me during lunch and said we needed to talk asap. i went to his class and he said we had to pretend we didn't know each other so we did for weeks and i deleted every picture on facebook and stuff. but in the hallway he seen me kiss one of my guy friends on the lips (just a little friend kiss nothing else) and he then asked to see me in his class were he said that he couldn't bare to see me with anyone else and kissed me. We were then texting and he said he wants to start a relationship with me, i really want to aswel, but i'm wondering if i move school or if he stops teaching there can that happen? or if we kept it as quiet as possible. He said age doesn't matter to him as we found out there is only nearly 5 years age gap.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 wait till you are over 18 and out of the school then feel free to carry on.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 You can only have a relationship with him once you are over the age of 18 and are no longer a student at the same school as him. Otherwise there is a very good chance he will get fired, go to jail, be put on the sex offenders register and his life will then be pretty much over.
I know that is harsh, and in your case it is very difficult for you because the age difference is not much and you met before you knew he would be teaching at your school. But you both need to be very careful, this is his entire life at stake and if anyone sees you kissing or together outside of school, he will be in a lot of trouble.
So you only really have 1 option - wait until you are 18 and not at that school anymore. Even if you left the school, or he worked at another school - if anyone found out he was a working teacher dating a student (at any school, not just his school) then he would get into trouble. So the only way that you can have a relationship is to wait until you are 18.
I know it will be difficult but at least you are 18 this year, so it wont be long to wait. If you really like each other then those feelings wont fade, and it will be worth the wait! It is not worth the risk for this guy to date you now, he could lose absolutely everything all for the sake of a few months.
I suggest you sit down and talk to him, explain you really like him and want to be with him but you dont want to risk his career or his future, therefore you think you should wait until you are 18 and out of school. Tell him that you wont date anyone else, and will wait for him, and you hope he will do the same for you.
Then try and keep your distance from him, and only keep in touch privately (so through a secure external email, NEVER his work email or on Facebook etc as people can see that easily).
If you start a relationship now and 'try' to keep it secret, someone will find out I promise. You will be spotted outside of school by someone (could be another student or a teacher), someone might see through MSN or facebook that you talk a bit too often or are too familiar, they might spot you in his classroom too frequently etc.
You really need to put him first here, dating you would risk everything for him and could potentially ruin his entire life. So be patient, and be very careful, and wait until you are 18 and out of that school before you go any further with him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 April 2011):
As a teacher, he cannot have sex with a pupil, or an ex pupil who is under the age of 18 - meaning he is now breaking the law if he does anything with you. It's sad because you two found each other before you knew he was a teacher, so there wasn't anything wrong at first. But, if you continue with this, he'll get jailed and be a sex offender, whilst you'll be expelled and spend many years as "the girl who got her teacher jailed and fired", as happened to a girl I knew.
Don't risk anything at all with this guy until you are over 18 and are no longer in the same school as him.
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