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*rndz4life
writes:hi i feel i am surrounded by many problems my ex and i hav had break up 4 months ago but still he hasnt been able to move on.. he has ended up hurting himself physically, sometimes threathening me and more important losing his focus out off studies. due to this he is suffering a lot personally and professionally too. i am feeling very very guilty about all this .i have moved on and dont want to go back to him though i would love to have him as a frnd i want to help him but i dont know how, he isnt ready to go for counselling neither coming out of it. this guilt is killing me can u plz help me on what to do plzz
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reader, frndz4life +, writes (9 February 2011):
frndz4life is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for advices i would try to follow them lets see if that works coz i really need to get out of it
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (6 February 2011):
As harsh as this may sound, we are all responsible for our own happiness... and your ex partner is extremely selfish for making you feel like the bad person here.
Could you perhaps approach his parents, tell them how concerned you are about him but state that you feel you need to distance yourself from the situation because it won't help him recover from the breakup.
One word of advice however, if it has affected him this much there is no possible way you can be friends... You may make it clear to him that friendship is all that you want, but because he is in love with you he will always be wanting more which will prevent him from moving on.
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reader, Mr.Joe  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 The best way to get him to know what he is doing is bad for him is to get others to tell him what to do. He needs support so the closest of his friends need to tell him to stop being obsessive.If you know some of his friends fairly well, there is no reason you shouldn't ask them to help you out. Getting a group together is what may work best. Don't go individually at different times. Get 2 or 3 of his friends to go at once.I hope this helps you and I sincerely wish you the best of luck.
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