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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm not trying to judge here, but my boyfriend's best mate's girl really bothers me. She is a big time flirt and tries to get with all the guys which includes her flirting around with my boyfriend. Like they say harmless flirting isn't a big deal, but her flirting is way beyond a harmless way. I don't think her talking about sex with my boyfriend and always saying how much she loves and adores him is harmless flirting. She acts like this with all the guys so I don't know if she has a thing for my boyfriend or not, but the flirting and talking about sex is really bothering me. And it's not only the flirting with my boyfriend, she has decided to try and tell my boyfriend lies about me and has tried spreading ridiculous rumors about me to his mates. She also gives me dirty looks whenever she sees me and even tries to get my boyfriend away from me to pay attention to her. I don't understand what the problem with her is, but I'm tired of letting all of this happen because my boyfriend or her boyfriend isn't doing anything and doesn't realize even the slightest bit about how this girl is treating me. I'm beginning to really dislike her and because it's my boyfriend's best mate's girl it would be impossible to keep her away from my boyfriend. I'm really stuck here and could use some advice, thanks to all x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): You have placed this girl in a position where she has the upper-hand regarding your relationship. You have a stupid boyfriend, with a very stupid best friend. His best friend's girlfriend flirts with your boyfriend, and he doesn't even care? He's too dumb to notice?You let your boyfriend get away with dismissing your feelings of discomfort about it. If she starts rumors about you, and he's willing to believe them; exactly what do you see in having him as a boyfriend? What are these rumors about? What proof does she have to back them up?Why do girls hang on to guys who weaken in the presence of every flirty female that comes along? Guys who easily flirt with other women, don't really want a girlfriend. They will cheat the first chance they get. If you keep them in spite of it; then you must shut up, and put up with it.Needy girls would rather hang on and let him cheat on them; then let him go. They're afraid that he might end up with her. He will anyway; if he wants her; and you'll get dumped.Either that, or you're just insecure and jealous every time another female looks cross-eyed in your boyfriend's direction. We only know one side of the story. We don't know how really serious this is, we want to help you.When a skank is chasing your man, you let him know, straight away and simple, that you don't like it. You inform him either it stops, or you're gone. If it doesn't stop...leave!!!When people spread rumors on you, you go to the source and inform them that you don't appreciate it; and you break ties with them. You don't hang out with trouble-makers and rumor-mongers. You don't keep boyfriends that don't stand up for you, or don't respect your feelings.If your boyfriend can't hang out with anyone but the same old couple; find a new boyfriend. Make new friends. Get as far away from the old crowd as you can.You can't choose your boyfriend's friends; but you can choose your own. You're the unhappy person in this group. So maybe you should move on. According to your post, everyone believes whatever she says about you. She starts rumors, and no one comes to your defense. Not even your boyfriend. So why stick around for all this crap?
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