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writes:Hi everyone. I feel kind of selfish about what I'm going to say but I really need the opinions of others.I don't like the girl who my boyfriend's friend has been dating. She repeatedly cheats on him with other guys (I know the guys). My boyfriend was talking with her one night being nice and trying to get to know her better. He then came over to me laughing and showed me the messages where she started coming on to him calling him really cute and asking him for a pictures of his penis...it was a really awkward situation and he didn't reply to her after that.I then find out from another one of my boyfriend's friends that she started coming on to him and asked him for a picture of his penis too.The weird thing is is that my boyfriend's friend (the guy who is dating the girl) doesn't seem bothered that she has been coming onto several of his friends and asking them for dirty pictures. He's really crazy about her, even knowing that she cheats on him all of the time.My boyfriend is still around this girl when he is with his friend. They were all recently at a party and he said when he got home later that she started messaging him and still flirting with him and even asked him again for a pic of his penis.I trust my boyfriend but deep down inside it bothers me that another girl is acting this way with him. I just don't know what to do because I've never had to deal with another girl coming onto my boyfriend before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2013): You're boyfriend seems like a good guy, especially since he's the one who showed you the messages right? It's showing he has nothing to hide and has no intention of showing her anything. The fact that he's even laughing about it tells me he sees her as a joke.
If it bothers you that much, just tell your boyfriend you don't like her talking to you that way, and he should probably avoid texting her should she keep asking for those pictures. If he truly cares, he'll stop.
On the other hand, don't get too mad at him. He can't control what she says. As long as he's not doing it, you should trust him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): There's really nothing you can do about it but feel uncomfortable. Your boyfriend and others have told you what she does and he openly admitted she came on to him. He can't control what another person says or does. Why does she have his phone number to text messages to him?
I think you should do what your boyfriend does. Ignore her.
She'll give up when she sees she can't tear other couples apart, just because her boyfriend means nothing to her. Too bad her boyfriend is so desperate, he'd put up with all of this.
Don't let her know she's getting to you. That's part of what she does to shake girls like you up. You become insecure, as if your boyfriend has no control of himself.
Your insecure whining will get on his nerves, and being around you becomes difficult. You have to get used to the fact that all girlfriends and boyfriends are fair game to people like her. So you just have to trust each other, and get upset if something actually happens.
You have to learn how to trust him. If you don't, girls will know you're insecure, and they will destroy your relationship by making you jealous.
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