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writes:Today I found out my cousin's fling likes me and my cousin is really depressed and I want to talk to her about it, but I don't know how. I feel really bad because my girlfriend told me she liked me but I thought she was being paranoid. I also want to tell this girl that I can't hurt my cousin by talking to her and if she has feelings for me that I don't want to hurt my cousin, but I don't know how, what should I say.
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reader, llifton +, writes (27 May 2011):
 oh lesbian drama. i feel ya girl. haha. it's simple. your cousin is family, and family always comes first. let this girl know that you won't allow anything like that to come between you and your cousin. also, you have a girlfriend, as well. and if i were your girlfriend, i certainly wouldn't be cool with you talking to girls i knew were attracted to you. do the respectful thing and tell this girl the truth. that nothing can come out of this.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (27 May 2011):
 This is a time to be definitive concerning this person who's eye you have caught.
Essentially you have answered you own question as you do need to approach this girl about your loyalties to your cousin and let things fall where they may.
Firstly verify the information you heard from your firend.
Then matter of factly talk to this girl and explain to her that you heard some words around the campfire regarding her feelings for you and wish to put matters at rest so that nobody gets hurt or gets lead on.
Simply say that you are not interested and leave it at that. PEople get hurt in these conversations but that is the way it is and it is usually as a result of the feelings the entertain toward others and not based upon what is really going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): I'm just a little confused...just so I understand:You have a girlfriend. Your cousin has a "fling". Your cousin is depressed and your girlfriend claims that "fling" likes you.Correct?If I am; You are in a relationship. Wouldn't it hurt you if your girlfriend talked to someone who liked her? I imagine she is feeling pretty insecure right now. I would try to comfort her and talk to her. Why is your cousin depressed? Because her fling likes you?? Honestly if this is the case then this "fling" is alot of drama. Is she really worth making your girlfriend insecure and your cousin depressed? I would just ignore her. Sounds nothing but trouble to me. If she tries to talk to you smile politely and go find something else to do. Ignore her as much as possible. Good Luck(And if I'm wrong I'm sorry. It was difficult to understand your situation. Perhaps if you explain more others will be able to give you a better answer.)
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