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writes: I have a friend that I love very much. A few weeks ago she had some guy contact her but everybody and I knew that he was a bad guy and he has many girlfriends. He doesn't love her for real. But she loves him very much. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): I think she should forget about the bad guy and try to see u. I now most women don't love nice guy but some time they findout u was the right one along. So try to make good friends speak to your about the risk with this guy. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2005): Let her find out the hard way, then offer her comfort when it all goes bad, she will most likely fall into your arms. Problem solved!
But don't take my word for it!
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reader, Delila +, writes (4 September 2005):
You are a good friend! Remember frienship doesn't judge it supports. Tell your friend that you are happy she is happy but that you heard some stuff about this guy. Don't keep harping on about it. Be there to laugh with her and cry with her if things go wrong and never say the words "I told you so". If you go on about how bad this guy is your friend will carry on feeling the way she does about him but she might start avoiding you. You can't reason with feelings!
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reader, pops +, writes (4 September 2005):
As a friend, talk to others who may be closer to her, and tell them what you learned and your sources of information. Ask them to tell her what you have learned. Then stay back. Sometimes people have to make a few mistakes before they see the flowers in the garden they stand in. YOu can't make her love you, so don't try. And, because you are emotionally interested in her, don't be the one to tell her about this guy. Her girlfriends can do this, and when she asks them who told them, they will give you as their source. Some day she will thank you. Don't make too much of it when she does. Tell her you cared for her, and didn't want to see her hurt by this bum.
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reader, lulu +, writes (4 September 2005):
I know it maybe hard but some how you have to distant yourself from this situation. If you are seen to interfere too much you will push this girl further towards this guy. You can be subtle and voice your opinion but not so she thinks you are deliberatly wanting her to end it. Just explain that you don't think that they are suited together and she could be with someone different. But most of all, emphasise that after it all you WILL stand by her and will be there for her.
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