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age
30-35,
*arah_s
writes:Dear Cupid. Hello.Rcentely, I've broken up with my 7 month boyfriend as because, he wants his space and 'single' life back. He explained it was not me but, him and I could go onto more details though, this one striked me. He said ''Sarah. Let me make this clear. Nothing has changed''. Hard and hurtful for both of us I gave him space.He contacted me 3 days later and asked how I was and everything. He invited me to his house 4 days after. I kinda avoided him so, I wouldn't be distracting but.. everything was the same but, in a settled position.We still remain friends according to him were best friends. We both have a strong bond and I can't explain it through words much more. He said he still loves me and (as I'm still weak) he said that if I find a new boyfriend he'll be happy as he wants to regain back my happiness. But, a few hours back where he told me this he was out drinking with his m8s someone from my class asked him if he can go out with me? and he said no to him. ..What does this mean??To tell the truth I'm still happy to be here as not a couple but, with a close friend. He also said probably in the future he will find a girl(s) to talk to not to have a relationship with because, he felt he's too young to have that now but, to chill with.My relationship with him is quite confusing. Do you think I should move on find someone else even though, we are still happy to be with each other's presence 'though' were not interested in someone else but, just us? We still go out- watch movies, arcades.etc. I don't know what's going on to be exact..SORRY for the long detailed question. I know it's confusing becuase, this is what I'm feeling right now..
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (29 March 2008):
sarah_s is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, to be honest. This friendship thing is not a waste he actually told me his real feelings saying what we had together he didnt want to loose. At the end me and him are back together again.. We still have that closure we couldn't ignore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): It sounds to me like your EX wants to have his cake and eat it too. Im sorry if this comes across as hurtful but i would bet that he told the friend not to ask you out because he does not want you to find some one else before he has. I think he is keeping you as a 'safety net' someone he knows has feelings for him that he can call on whenever he likes but can use the 'just good friends' get out clause whenever he needs to.
By all means stay friends with this man but i think you should take some time out for yourself then gradually increase your social circle so your meeting new and interesting people i'll bet with time he wont seem so important any more.Good LucK !!!
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