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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for about six months now, we get on amazingly and are very happy together. however, his ex girlfriend is clearly still not over him, they broke up over a year ago but i can see she still loves him.when she first discovered he was seeing me it was on a night out and we were hugging and kissing, she ran to the toilets and cried all night (we have mutual friends who told me this.)i talked things through with her and said i hope shes ok with the situation and that shes able to accept us as a couple (i dont owe her anything-we were never friends, but i know how hard it can be seeing an ex with someone new)anyway, i thought everything was fine, but shes recently been changing her facebook status, making snide remarks about our relationship. its so childish and pathetic, but she keeps commenting on photos of me and my boyfriend saying he's gay (disguising it in a jokey way, but it still gets to me)and just recently she's started sleeping with his best friend (i'm pretty sure this is just to try and get back at my boyfriend, but he doesnt care because he's moved on :s)It's hard because I'm away at uni and he works full time back at home so when he goes out with his mates, she's always around with this new guy, but seems to cling to my boyfriend. He's admitted to me that he wishes she'd make her own friends and finds it awkward when she around.I don't know how to ignore her or get her out of our lives... help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Just chill. Ur bf is just trying to be a good and polite human being by letting her do her stuff. All those stupid attempts to break u up with him only serves to remind why he's better off staying away from her and being with u.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (29 January 2009):
 There isn't anything you can do really, its just going to take time for her to get over him. I suppose your boyfriend could stop drinking with the guy shes seeing, but it is his best friend and it would probably make things worse if you suggested it.Don't let the whole facebook thing get to you, its just her being bitter and childish, which most people will realise.
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reader, befffy +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I have been in exactly the same situation as you.
My boyfriend has two ex's that are rather in love with him.
I like neither, I attempted to make friends with them and they spat it back in my face.
My boyfriend has an ex who he was with for two years, then she cheated on him in front of his eyes, after a while she got really jelous of me and started threatening me and sending me and him anonymous emails etc.
It was horrible, she did it a few times.
Then eventually after loads of trouble, he eventually just told her to back off etc. and she did.
Then his other ex used to hang around with us, I never liked her from the start, eventually she was somehow brain washing my bf to see the bad sides of me, I really hate her.
Then she started calling me horrid names and all that.
And nowh e has just totally broken contact with her.
Which is good, so your boyfriend himself should talk to her and just get the point made clear, that shes not wanted and should just back off! x
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