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writes:The end of a fine romance??I've been in this relationship for 3 years of which he last two years its been a long distance haul of 520 miles round trip (due to family commmitments), I try and visit every 3 weeks.Last summer for fun, I googled her name and low and behold she was on facebook so as a prank I joined and to test her resolve sent her a message pretending to be a long lost college admirer from 30 yrs ago. She replied some 2 weeks later and said she couldn't remember me but asked what I did and was I married. I replied back I was a very well off property developer, divorced and about to retire to SPain. Like lightning she replied with a long long email of how she finished with me 2 years ago but was still in touch but as a friend/no sex. I even created a new email account and bought a mobile as she wanted my number although she never answered my calls she always responded to text. My girlfriend sent sexy photos of herself clothed although nothing hot and sexy went over the cyberspace - she talked of having great breasts and going topless abroad, as she admitted she was going with me on hols to spain.She did state in one of her emails that I was a friend now and couldn't abandon me due to the early onset of Parkinsons. She admitted she wanted to move on and do her own thing in 2 years time when her boy goes to uni in another email.There was going to be a meet some 2 days before we went on holiday and she implied cheekily she never slept with a guy on a first date. To avoid a head on collision so I thought I sent some lurid emails saying I was very very well endowed in 10'' length and very thick and that I'd been asked to appear in porn vids. She got annoyed and said bye bye. When I phoned her as me some 10 mins later she was very upset and she said one of her friends was seriously ill .On the day we were to go on vacation she found the mobile in my car and she went crazy and lost the plot but eventually I coaxed her round to go on hols. Sex every day but it seemed like a chore. Over the past 6 months its blown hot and cold but since Xnmas she doesn't sometimes answer the phone or reply to texts. Tonight for instance she said she'd call but when I called her on mobile and landline no answer. She always deletes messages and phone records . And it is friday night and I'm 260 miles away.I admit I was a right swine to set it up but what do you alll think. I want this to work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): It sounds like SHE broke it off with YOU already. As you said, "she doesn't sometimes answer the phone or reply to texts. Tonight for instance she said she'd call but when I called her on mobile and landline no answer. She always deletes messages and phone records ." She is cutting contact...that means THAT means she's pulled away already!
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reader, michael777 +, writes (23 January 2010):
michael777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help, in my own way its hard to leave the relationship , but when you see the email and texts its quite obvious she wants to walk away .There must be some hope??
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): I don't think you have much chance of salvaging this relationship. Not only did you contact her on facebook but you went to great lengths to continue the trick. I'm surprised she even went away with you after that. She has shown that she was willing to see someone else and lied about you, but the only reason you know that was because of your own insecurities anyway and you initiated the situation in the first place.
To be honest this isn't the basis of a long lasting or stong relationship. Relationship counselling may help you to become a better partner, if she is willing to go it will show she is committed to making your relationship work.
But I think if she doesn't want to make the effort to help fix things that have happened, then you've got to move on without her.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 January 2010):
I think this is a huge mess. Setting her up was a pretty immoral thing to do, but let's face it, she failed the test on a massive scale and said you were just a friend. You'd do better to just move on from all this. You were a bit cruel setting her up, but you've found the truth, and that is that if your set up had been real, she'd have cheated in about two minutes. Move on from her.
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