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writes:If you're seeing a man and he seems very focused on sex, is that always a bad thing?I'm seeing someone, we haven't slept together yet, but he does seem to bring the conversation around to it a lot. That said, he has told me he isn't going to be pushy towards me and he's glad we're waiting too if that's what I want.Even though he says that, I get the sense that he really really just wished I would do it now lol.Without all the boring details, I wondered if this makes him an out and out user and he's just trying to use me for sex. Or is it also possible (or likely, should I say) that he does care for me as much as he says and he just happens to be a very sexual sort of person? So behaving and talking in that way is a way of him showing his feelings for me?The guys I've gone out with before haven't really had massive sex drives so I've never really been in a position like this before.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 love will wait, lust want,s now. ask your self is he interested in you or what he can get from you.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (8 September 2011):
 If he doesn't try to find out more about you as a PERSON, he only cares about sex. So ask yourself: what does he do to know more about you? Does he care about what you say? Is he talking more about sex and hinting at sexual things than asking you questions, talking about various topics, figuring out what you like/dislike, ect?
Above all, listen to your inner voice. If you have that feeling that tells you he more interested in your body, chances are it's accurate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): Sounds like he's horny and hot for you. I would hold out and if he's there in the next several weeks then he's the real thing. Also imagine how great the sex will be. All that pent up desire.
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