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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend well over a year now, and i think theres something wrong with me I constantly want attention. We see each other most days after work and we normaly have a day or two off in the week where we have time to ourselves. But when we'r together i constantly want cutches, hugs, kisses ect, i dont know whats wrong with me, i seem to be happy if i have one kiss a day so im not really sure if its me or if he just doesnt notice.We argue alot because i think theres always somthing wrong with him when he doesnt show me attention and he finds it annoying that i keep asking the same question "whats wrong?", but when i dont ask i feel theres something that needs to be said as i think theres something up. I really need some advice as i need to stop this constant feeling and concentrate on sometimes being alone. Im not sure if my childhood has effected this as i never really got much attention as my dad left when i was young and ive never got in touch with him to have the daughter/dad relationship, and my mam shortly after got in a relationship with another man, so they were in there little bubble together, not that my mother constantly blanked me out, but i wish we could of done more things together like mothers and daughters do, ad now the constant want of attention is catching up with me. Also it may be because of previous relationships where partners have been unfaithful a majority of times, it feels as though full trust in my future relationship will never be there because of this even though i do feel alot of turst in the man im with now more than anyone ive been with before. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey rhythmandblues2,
Thanks for the reply it really helped and il take your advice on bored.
Thankyou :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): It is not too late to have a closer relationship with your mom, even though Dad is out of the picture, you can tell your Mum you would like to spend some one on one time with her...she will be flattered and shocked most likely so be sure to help her up when she hits the floor.
Often times this sense of insecurity is a sign that something else in our lives is missing. You need other people in your life to be able to confide in and be there for you as a source of support. Your boyfriend can not be responsible for your every need or your every happiness and you will end up pushing him away with your neediness.
I mean it is lovely to be physically affectionate when together, but if you think it is too much, then you are probably sensing some irritation on his end. Sometimes men respond better if when they are sitting alone in a room you walk up behind them and put your arms around his chest and kiss him on the head and then keep walking and do your own thing. Too much togetherness can be too much at times depending on your personalities....so just back off and if your boyfriend seems emotionally distant and you aren't enjoying yourself, simply excuse yourself to go and do something else.
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