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writes:My boyfriend lives in Illinois, and I live in California. We've been dating for a while now, without seeing each other, once. So it's officially long distance, without meeting in person :( And recently I found out he was cheating on me. I love him so much, but I really don't know what to do. Two weeks have passed, and we're still getting over it, but it kills me to know that he'd betray me like that. I really need help, because I don't want to lose him, but I don't want him to take me for granted any more. He's always busy, and I don't know how long I can hang in here for. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): It sounds like you have put in a big emotional investment into a man you never see. You don't know him really as he can say what he wants if it's only online and could be a completely different person.
Try and move on, and find someone you can physically see and talk to so you have a better idea of what is going on.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 April 2009):
 re-review your relationship. a long distance relationship takes a great amount of restraint. there are temptations out there, locally. in order for a long distance relationship to work, those in it must be really into the relationship and treat is as if you were physically together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Sweetie----I know what you are feeling is very real, it hurts, aches, and the very tears you cry are as real as I am. But, the relationship in which you speak so foundly of was not.
Yes people can have a long distance relationship (richard marx the singer/songwriter) for example. But after meeting and building a relationship with her did the long distance occur.
I can write anything on here (internet) and seem like I am right there with you, but I am not.
My point is dear--you fell in love with what was written on a computer thousands of miles away. You are worried that you are going to loose something you never had. obviously you are a caring and loving person and I think you could make some young man who is made of flesh and blood and right next to you very happy.
I hope this helps...
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (24 April 2009):
 i havw been married to an american for 2 years, dating for 3, i am english, i am used to being so far apart from him but we met before we decided to be an item.
if you two were exclusive and he cheated i would consider moving on. if you didnt have rules and he cheated at least meat him and make it work.
life is to short, u cant life in mistrust, so feel what you will about the situation and make a dedcisiom. you dont need to be messed about no matter what.
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