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writes: Ok i'm 16 and my 19 yr old boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and a half now and problems are starting to arise. For one, I no longer want to be intimate...Having sex and kissing just freak me out...It's like everytime we do someting it's the same as the last... i also never get those butterflies that i had when we first started going out. Two, I think i like his best friend. My b/f and i spend every afternoon with his friends so i'm around this guy a lot. He and i flirt ocassionally and while he sits out ( He's a skateboarder like myb/f) He looks over a lot and smiles. We constantly joke around and he loves to steal my digital camera to take pictures of himself and gets mad if i delete them. The only thing is is that the flirting started to get bad this week. I have no idea what to do. I still love my boyfriend but at the same time i just can't get intimate but his best friend givs me a feeling i lost 10 months ago...butterflies in my stomach.... any ideas or was that way too confusing?
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (5 September 2006):
 If the feelings are genuine, then I think you should break up with your boyfriend. It is not fair on him, as he will start to feel strung along. He probably has already noticed your feelings have changed and probably already suspects.
Give it time before starting a relationship with his friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo the other guy doesnt. He and his ex girlfriend talk a lot but they've been broken up for about 8 months now and they still arent back together
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (29 August 2006):
 if you have fell out of love with your boyfriend you shouldnt be hangin on cause at the end its his feeling you will be hurting his friend seems to be with use like a rash use need time together i think if the spark is gone then you know it is over if it there its just a crush and you will have to get over it cheersxx
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (29 August 2006):
I feel the intimacy feelings have gone because of this friend. You are really attracted to this other guy and no longer see your boyfriend in the same way.
I think you and your boyfriend need to spend some time alone, without the other guy about. maybe then you will realise why you got with your boyfriend in the first place.
If you really feel that you dont want to be with him, then you should break it off with him, just do not try to make a relationhip with his friend, at least not for a while.
Does this other guy have a girlfriend?
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