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writes:hii have got a bit of deilema! its a forbiden friendship. heres the story.we both go to a small 6th form and we both have different friendship groups. its been about a year since we first met and since then we have got really, really close as friends. over this year my trust with my friends has lessened and i feel like he's the only person who i can talk to about deep things and i really love spending time with him. he's gay, and im looking for a good Christian guy as i am one myself, so we have both told each other that our relationship wouldn't go any futher.i will admit i did start to spend A LOT of time with him instead of my friends. but when i realised this we spent more time with our own friends and still spent time together. and everything was going ok.then the other day, someone heard his friends and my friends gossiping together about us spending time together and said really nasty things about both of us but especially about him.since then he has been avoiding me. its not fair! we had a really great relationship with each other. i was closer to him than anybody else and i felt that he was the only one i could trust at school. i feel like he has been taken away from me. i dont want to keep going up to him in school, because i know that he was hurt by what they said and i dont want to get him into anymore trouble with his friends. is there anything that i could do to help the situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Oh hunny
How sad that these friends cant be nicer like the anon post said can you e-mail or send a text saying its his friendship you miss and you understand the peer preasure and then leave it up to him to deside how important your friendship really is to him, Give it time sweetheart and if you were really good mates then he will miss that. There are certain things someone can give to another in a friendship that they dont get from others...IF YOU NEED A CHAT MESSAGE ME TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): hmm...thats a tricky one. i would try to call or email him and tell him you know what everyone is saying but you thought your friendship meant more than their opinions do. I always say that your life should be custom made. Who the hell cares what other people do or think? If you wanna be friends with this guy and your friendship is as good as you say, then it would be crazy to end it just because of other peoples silliness. i live by the custom-made rule, as do the most interesting people i know.Try to talk to him privately, not at school because i think you have to respect the fact that he feels uncomfortable at the moment. but i'm sure he'd appreciate a text or an email. gossip feels like a big deal at your age but when you get out of school you'll realise its them with the problem, not you.
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