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writes: hi, i've been married for 11 years and always thought that i was reasonably happy, until arpund 4 years ago, when i suddenly realised that i wasn't compromising in my relationship, but just giving in all the time. I became very depressed and my partner didn't want or know how to help me. so i started having an affair with a married man. at first it seemed fun and daring, however now i feel as if he is just using me for sex. when i tell him i want to end it, he becomes very hostile and obsessive. i don't know what i should do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): As you've already told this married man you want to end it, and hes responded by being hostile and obsessive, your relationship with him IS now over. To continue contact with him will certainly cause a great deal of problems for you. You need to be strong, decisive and firm with him, you need to tell him its over, and then literally move on from him. You are in control of your life, and if you choose not to see a person, then that is not open for debate - your married man really has no say in the matter.
I don't know what you want to do with regards to your marriage, but I would suggest you tell your husband everything that has gone on.
I am very sorry to hear you are depressed and that you are feeling used, but you must have strength in yourself that once you get yourself out of this messy situation you can move on with your life and with a promise to yourself, you will never end up feeling used by a man again, nor find yourself in a relationship with someone where you are giving all and having nothing in return. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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