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writes:I have been dating someone for almost 2 years, and I recently discovered he has been texting (and sometimes calling) old girlfriends and lovers.I also found out that he has met up with old girlfriends for lunch (?) on business trips because we ran into one unexpectedly. He is also married, but has not lived with his "wife" in 10 years. The "wife" lives in another state with her boyfriend. Apparently the reason she left was due to his cheating. He has been very generous with me and we are together almost every day. I'm just not sure if his texting is innocent (as he claims) or its just a way of keeping his old flames around and interested...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe said she was just a business associate and he never had any type of
"relationship" with her. Nevertheless, he concealed the fact he had lunch
with her. He has not divorced his wife due to financial reasons and the
fact that he doesn't like the mess Lawyers generally create when large
amounts of money are involved. She is completely taken care of and the
BF lives with her.
I'm just not sure why he feels the need to contact old flames if he truly
cares for me. He has told me they're just "friends". He knows if I caught
him making plans with any of them, it would be over between us. So, he may
feel that I have one foot out the door already and is keeping his options alive.
what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): I would think if you're in a committed relationship, he would first ask you if you would mind if he'd meet an old girlfriend for lunch. If he is doing this behind your back & you know he's had a history of cheating, I think that would be cause for concern.
Why wouldn't he divorce his wife after 10 years of living apart?
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