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writes:Hi this is a question mainly for women!!! my ex got me a vibrator, it’s very soft and adaptable is not very wide so it fits just fine, the problem is it hurts when i insert it so i cannot use it... when he was using it on me it didn’t feel that bad... it has been a while since i used it or had sex so i am guessing it could be that, but no matter how much i tried to get used to it, it still hurts... i wonder is there any other women who feel like this?... it does no matter how wet i am or horny... it does not matter if i use lube or not it hurts. Is it normal have you ever experiencd it?
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reader, Jynxter  +, writes (13 November 2012):
 I apologize in advance for taking the liberty to offer my 2 cents on the subject since I am… a guy! But, I do have some gal friends that have shared their feelings on the subject with me as part of my research into sexuality for a book I am writing called “Moving the Line”.
First rule for everyone to experience enjoyable sex is avoid doing something that hurts… unless that is something you expect or desire. I can see your face now saying…What? Expect and want something to hurt? Understand that the pain and pleasure centers of our brain are in close proximity and both trigger hormonal responses that heighten arousal. Clearly, the pain you are experiencing is unwelcome and as a result you are enjoying yourself less. So… stop doing it…lol.
Your anatomy, technique or ‘angle’ may be reasons for you pain and forcing yourself to continue playing with this ‘toy’ clearly isn’t doing it for you. But… all is not lost. There are hundreds of dildos and vibrators out there than have different designs and features so that if you want to continue experimenting you can spend a small fortune (or have your boyfriend pay for them…lol) in an effort to find what works best for you.
However, there are a lot of other exciting options for you to explore that may add some punch to your sex life. Have you ever played with bullets… ben wa balls or remote controlled vibrators? The last toy is a favorite of mine and my partners. These devices can be used internally or externally and have no wires to tie you down…lol Imagine being in a restaurant… or at a party… watching a movie or shopping in a store or supermarket and the remote is activated by your partner! It will be hard to keep a straight face… and equally hard to keep from squirming.
Bottom line, insertion toys… or at least the one you have… may not be for you. But that doesn’t mean you have to take steak off your menu just because you don’t like liver. Have fun and explore…
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2012): Angle of the dangle?If size/depth/lube is the same as a penis which doesn't cause pain, then could you be inserting it at an uncomfortable angle? It didn't feel as bad when he did it? But his hands would have far more reach, have more freedom to do it at the angles intended by nature while you would have to reach to get down there?
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (8 November 2012):
 Personally I prefer vibrators. It's much more exciting to stimulate the clit. My husband can go deep but the vibrator is a unique sensation that he cannot duplicate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont insert it to deep, i can't lol it won't go in any more so i gave up on it hehe
i am also getting a small bullet i think i will stick to using it externally...
i do orgasm from penetration so that is the kind of feeling i was going for... but i guess i will just have to wait untill i find a real one for keeps :)
thanks for the feedback xx
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 November 2012):
 I do not like dildos and since I never orgasm from penetration I never saw a need for them.
IF it hurts don't use it.
I use a small "pocket rocket" like Honeypie said...externally
or my fav is a hand held shower massage set on pulse...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 November 2012):
 Use it externally (which mean on your clit for the buzz buzz) and don't insert?
and if you want to insert don't jam it "up there" could be the reason it hurt is because you are hitting your cervix.
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