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writes: Whenever me and my girlfriend text each other or speak online we have always put ' i love you ' after a tiny little text such as 'on my way up in 5 minutes. I love you xxxx' we do this. I think its her idea mianly to do this and was from the start but now i feel that after 8 n a half months there is no need too do this apart from when we see each other.How can i stop the 'i love you' on texts every time we text without hurting her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): tell her the truth. tell her that you love her and she means a lot to you but you feel like constantly saying I love you makes it cheap.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 August 2006):
 I think people put too much emphasis on little xxx's and what they mean. Not putting a kiss-mark doesn't mean you don't love her; it just means you haven't texted a letter X or three. Gees. People get their knickers in a twist over some little stuff... Just stop doing it, or, if you're afraid it'll cause a kerfuffle, replace it with a single x.
"See you in 5. x"
If she asks you why, tell her that you know that she knows you love her, and you're so confident that she knows that you don't have to write it every time.
For you all you know, she's tired of putting silly little xxx's on everything too, and doesn't know how to stop.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (5 August 2006):
 If you mean to say it then dont worry... Mums are curious things dont let it bother you... if your happy to text it carry on, but if your feeling it is too much try and limit it a little and see how you go. But do what feels right for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): I just wandered if it was a bit too much etc...My mum only commented on it cuz she saw some of my messages and asked why i was just wandering...Thanks
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (5 August 2006):
 You could just shorten it to 'Love you' or even 'Love u' if you're running out of message space (personally I never use 'luv u' cos that's painful on the eyes:-P). And with the predictive type on, you could do that in last than a second! It really is no big dealThats assuming its not a text conversation in which case, do what WendyG said and put it at the end of the last message. If it makes her happy, why stop?
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (5 August 2006):
Well, Ive been with my man for 3 years.. and we still use the I love you after the texts even though we live together! Why is it that you find it so much of a strain to do ? Sometimes we have the odd message that doesnt say I love you in it, but will have xxx in it... maybe if its thats much of a problem try putting some xxx instead of the i love you... it doesnt take too much more effort to put i love you in it but i have just asked my man and he said that maybe it is a girl thing and thats hes not bothered about it either way, mainly because we know we love each other and its something that we have always done and well we love each other so why not put it.. I guess sometimes ours is just a simple text to say i love you anyway for no reason just an off the cuff little message, we both do it, but i guess everyone is different .. maybe if its a long convo you are having on text then maybe just keep it to the last text or just but little kisses or something. Maybe just gradually start dropping it and if she says anything just say well you know i love you and hadnt really thought about it and just didnt think it would make that much of a difference,... you have to be careful cos if you have always done it like we have, then suddenly not to do it she might think you dont care as much, so maybe if she does mention it just let her know how much you do love her and that its not that bigger deal and that sometimes if your in a rush you dont feel the need to do it all the time. Some women do feel that they need it even if they are going to see you in an hour, but well i guess us girls can be a bit more lovey dovey that way, where as men are more straight to the point and get the situation in hand dealt with without all the lovey stuff lol Maybe start fading it a little bit after each text, but every so often just send her one to say i love you and nothing else... then when she does get them ones it will mean more than just the habit at the end of each sign off..
Hope that helps...
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