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30-35,
*lex.9
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years ish now and no matter how much I moan about him or our little arguments I love him to bits and the thought of having to be without him kills me.He has a group of friends we all go out every other weekend and all the boys get on and the girlfriends do too but there is 1 guy who I admit is lovely a really nice guy we all have each other on an Internet social networking site so me and this guy let's call him J started chatting and then 1 night at the pub I was showing him my new phone and left him playing with it while I chatted to everyone else and I had a intimate video on there which I took for my boyfriend and he saw it without me catching him until the end of the video he just smiled and I blushed baring in mind my boyfriend was next to me and his girlfriend next to him we will call them C and S. A few days later myself and J were chatting online And this became a habit we enjoyed the banter he started texting me too whih was fine nothing untoward and after a few days he brought up my video saying that it was good and he had enjoyed it I just laughed it off.One night after work I had somewhere to be and I was running late so I asked him for a lift then he gave me a few lifts we kissed which I admit gave me butterfly's in by tummy and I was excitedAnyway we only ever kissed once exchanged some intimate Pictures ant then his girlfriend saw all the texts and we never spoke again she has now after months and months now messaged me threatening to tell my boyfriend obviously i don't want this especially after things have been going to well and if he is going to find out I would rather it come from me so the big question is do I tell him or not? And if I do how do I go about it? Oh and both my boyfriend and his girlfriend have cheated before not with each other but mine has messaged girls many times before Please help!!
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reader, sunandstars +, writes (13 February 2011):
Yes, you should definitely tell him, he will appreciate your honesty, just say, 'I have something I need to tell you, I'm going to be completely honest because I don't want you to find out from someone else',you said it wasn't serious so you can then say, 'I promise it means nothing but...' and then explain it all to him. He should understand, after all you said he cheated too. I hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): You need to tell him what happened. I'm guessing if his girlfriend hadn't found it this would have still been going on.
If you really care about your boyfriend then you owe him the truth.
You don't sound the least bit guilty just worried about getting found out.
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reader, justme. +, writes (13 February 2011):
Yes you should tell him, but he will understand if he loves you, like you said, you and that guy were nothing serious. And as for that girl, let her keep texting and threatning you, just tell her your not scared, she can tell him if she likes but make sure you get to your boyfriend before she does. Tell him, he will know how you are feeling if he cheated to. Don't let that girl underestimate you. Good luck! x
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