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*ayde21
writes:I am in a bit of a diliemma here. I have met this guy about a month ago through a very good friend of mine, and the guy is also a very good friend of my brother. So we have mutual friends. We have all gone out dancing in groups for a couple weeks, until 3 or 4 weeks ago, that we liked each other. We went out on dates, dancing, and i have gone to his house and saw a movie, and he has also stopped by my house to say hi. We were texting everyday, until one day we went out, i felt that he was pushing me away, but towards the end of the night everythng was back to normal, but as always i tend to over analyze things a bit too much. So i approched him and asked him in a text, and asked why he was acting the way he was, and what his intentions were with me? he ended up calling me, because he didn't want to go do it through text. He said he just wasn't feeling good, and that he does like me, but he wants to get to know me, theres no rush. I also told him we could be friends, but he said no he didn't want that. So everything was back to normal, he was back to texting me. Soon enough he got a PS3 and was playing with his friends more often, and didnt see him for a whole week, and texts began to be slow down. Friday invited him to go out dancing, he showed up with a mutual friend. Things were a bit awkward, he ended up leaving, and when we were talking through texted i asked is everything ok? and i also said he confuses me, and i feel he is given me mixed signals. He said why?, and he said we should talk about this another time. I didn't want to get too deep, so i said "don't worry about, its ok, i've already figured it out" he replied "you haven't figured anything out" i replied " Have a goodnight" and same for him. I ended up apologizing the next night through a text saying it was miscommunication, and lets start over. he replied "we good" i texted him the next day "ok, well just wanted to let you know, if you want to talk we can, if not then ok" i havent heard from him 2 days. We have mutual friends, and i know i've made some dating mistakes, but is there anyway that I can redeem myself?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Yes I agree with Rescuer ease up life isn't meant to be so serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): Sorry love but you have to take the good with the bad and there are bound to be some answers that you don't like when you post a question on a site such as this. That's the way life goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): You said: "So i approched him and asked him in a text, and asked why he was acting the way he was," and: "and when we were talking through texted i asked is everything ok?" This made me think you were texting him while in the same room
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reader, jayde21 +, writes (9 June 2010):
jayde21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst, of all i would like to thank the 3 ladies for the great advice they have shared, and to the last 2, if you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all. if you can read i simply said "he left", why in the world would i text someone if their right there. Intelligent answers only thank you, and please no more rude comments thank you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 June 2010):
 I see them walking together on campus, side by side mind you, texting each other back and forth. Especially the girls. Or both walking together and both with a cell phone glued to their ears...astounding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): I find it simply astounding that young people text each other when they are in the same room as each other. That is so bizzare not to mention a waste of money!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): you went out with this guy a couple of times. to you you are now a couple. you are coming on way too strong. he wants to have fun...get to know you. you are picking colors for the wedding. relax and have fun. he doesnt want to be part of a commited couple yet...you are scaring him away.
as the mother of 4 sons i have seen this over and over. as soon as someone they show some interest in starts the endless texting, becoming to available, clinging..."where do you see this relationship going" mantra...they pretty much get going. they like to be the pursuer...so back off and give him space. and moos mum is dead on as usual. stop stop stop texting. mal
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (9 June 2010):
Sweetheart please please please STOP texting!! Face to face is the only way to deal with people you are trying to have a relationship with. I agree with you I think you have over analysed things and driven him up the wall with assumptions that are unfounded. You know men never think that deeply about relationships and I don't mean that to sound like a man basher but they just don't go into the depth that we do about stuff. NO MORE TEXTS to him from now on. When you see him be nice and friendly and let him start to chase you again. And by the way he wont want to spend every spare minute with you sometimes he will want to play PSP with his mates cause that's uncomplicated.
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