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writes:I'm a virgin 16 year old girl and when I try to finger my vagina I can't because IT HURTS A LOT.I can't even stick my entire finger in my vagina,I have tried but I can't,I have been trying to finger my vagina since I was 12 years old(when I discovered masturbation) and this situation has never changed,I always feel the same HORRIBLE PAIN.I just put my fingertip at the entrance of my vaginal opening and that's enough to make me feel a TERRIBLE PAIN,IT HURTS SO MUCH,BELIEVE ME IT HURTS A LOT!!!!and I haven't even put my full finger in it.I just put my fingertip at the entrance of my vaginal opening.Therefore it shouldn't hurt so much.I'm always in the mood,horny and very wet when I try to insert one finger but it doesn't work.I always go slowly and gently but it doesn't work.I have tried to finger my vagina many times but at all of these times I felt the same TERRIBLE PAIN and couldn't go further.Most virgin girls can fully finger their vaginas and they don't feel a horrible pain,they just feel a mild pain,so I don't think that I feel a terrible pain just because I'm a virgin and I have been trying to finger my vagina since I was 12 years old,so this situation should have changed,I mean the entrance of my vaginal opening(this is the furthest I can go when I try to finger myself)should have loosen but I think it hasn't because it's always the same thing,it's always the same pain.If have been trying to insert a finger in my vagina since I was 12 years old and now I'm 16 years old it should have stretched out.Once I was about to cry after trying to masturbate...no joke.I'm worried about when i get older because if I can't insert one finger in my vagina how will a penis penetrate it?Whenever I try to insert a finger in my vagina even when I'm horny and very wet it hurts sooo much and it gets irritated and sore.I feel very embarassed asking this question!!!Curently,I gave up trying to finger my vagina.Why does it hurt so much? Am I Too Tight?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2010): I am also turning 13 soon and i recently tried fingering myself...my vagina does not hurt at all even to put my whole finger inside! I guess i just natruly have a loose pussy to begin with. this isnt much help but maybe you'll loosen up when the time is rite!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Your gynecologist can help you understand this issue.
I'm not suggesting you have this issue, but it might be useful to read about vaginismus. My suggestion to you is that you are now freaking out about it and nothing you are doing is helping you relax. I'd forget about trying to penetrate your vagina for the time being and just practice the muscle exercises called Kegels (you can google those) and relaxation techniques. Honestly, this is something to discuss with the doctor. It is a valid concern of yours and deserves proper medical attention. The doctor can examine you and this will tell you a lot about your situation. It may just be that you've wound yourself up into a state of anxiety and all you need to do is calm down. It may be that you have this vaginismus. There's honestly no way for a pack of untrained strangers on the internet to know for sure. Go see your doctor. And good luck!
From webmd.com: "Vaginismus - This is a painful spasm of the muscles surrounding the vaginal opening that causes the vaginal opening to "tighten." It can prevent penetration or make penetration extremely painful. Vaginismus can be caused by injuries or scars from surgery, abuse, or childbirth, by infection, or by irritation from douches, spermicides, or condoms. It can also be caused by fear."
"Vaginismus is difficult to reverse without professional help. If you have a partner, seek therapy together in a safe and supportive environment. To accustom your body to the feeling of penetration, a therapist may recommend inserting a series of vaginal dilators, each slightly larger than the last. You advance at your own pace until you are comfortable inserting a dilator the size of your partner's erection. Contraction and relaxation exercises can teach control of the vaginal muscles and increase sexual responsiveness.
"Kegel exercises to improve vaginal muscle tone can help improve sexual responsiveness and enjoyment. These exercises involve clenching those muscles involved in stopping the flow of urine, holding for about five seconds, and then relaxing. You're usually asked to do three sets of 10 to 15 contractions daily. Frequently, consultation with a physical therapist skilled in treating pelvic muscle problems can improve the success when treating problems arising from the muscles around the vagina.
"Sex therapy treatment may include exercises that ask you to participate in sexually stimulating behaviors, initially avoiding genital contact. You are asked to concentrate on the pleasurable sensations, simultaneously attempting to relax and ward off any negative feelings, such as anxiety, fear or guilt. When you can do this, you are then given instructions on how to masturbate.
"The goal is to learn how to derive pleasure from self-stimulation, without allowing negative feelings to interfere. When you are comfortable with these acts, and can participate in them without negative feelings or pain, you'll be asked to begin to include your partner. Slowly, gradually and progressively, you and your partner move towards increasing sexual intimacy, perhaps ultimately including vaginal penetration."
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/understanding-female-sexual-problems-treatment?page=2
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Just a thought, do you have long nails?
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (18 April 2010):
 It's worth a try! Use lots and lots and lots of lube! and just relax and take your time, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo,I have never tried using lube,but all the times that I tried to insert one finger I was horny and very wet.I mean it was dripping wet.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 This happens to me as well, what I found was that I can't really get into masturbation because it's just me, but when I'm with a guy and he's doing it, I'm fine.
I'd say that you probably don't have to go to a doctor.
Your vagina might only open up when you are completely at ease, so if you ever find that it happens with a boy it may just mean that you are a bit too anxious.
Like a previous answer said, it will get easier over time.
good luck
xx
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (18 April 2010):
You're probably thinking too much about it, so you're worried and it tightens etc. Have you tried using lube? x
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (17 April 2010):
 my girl friend had it before we met and she was too scared to do it. She went to see a doctor and everything was ok after that. Go to doctor don't be embarased.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I'm horny my vagina gets tighter,I mean it contracts.
Is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAm I too tight?
Am I small down there?
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (17 April 2010):
first of all nothing is wrong... It's quite normal for some women to be small down there, it will expand with more time and when you've had sex etc.
You may even tighten up without realising it, if you're thinking ''ah it's not gonna go in it's not gonna go in!'' then you're stressing and will probably tighten anyway!
Just keep slowly, experimenting. Use lube and just keep playing around for a while and try get a tiny bit in at a time.
Thing is not to worry because so so so many girls have this problem!
xxxxxx
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