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writes:I dated a guy for 10 years and in the last 2 years he was seeing another women behind my back, to which he got caught. He lied about seeing her and still does. He has not contacted me since the split, which is a month. Is he worth fighting for? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): No, if he was worth it in any way, shape, or form, he'd be the one fighting for you, doing anything it took to straighten out his head to fix whatever was wrong with him to cause him to cheat.
Keep that in mind, cheaters cheat because of what is wrong with them, not what is wrong with those they cheat on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): No, if he's not even tried to explain what happened I don't think he deserves the time of day
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 No. My general rules (and I'm rarely wrong about these) for taking a guy back after cheating are:
It was a one night thing.
He came clean immediately.
A two year long affair is not someone who messed up, it is someone who will always cheat. He hasn't even bothered to apologize, meaning he probably will never feel bad and never change.
I'm so sorry that happened after 10 years. Unfortunately this guy is absolutely not worth any more of your time.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 You shouldn't even have to ask this question you should know the answer to it yourself. No he is not worth fighting for at all. Yes ten years is a long time but two years of that he spent lying and cheating to you, and he still has the nerve to keep on denying it. What a terrible person he is. Why would you want to fight for that. Surely you wouldn't be able to trust him after that. Plus who is to say that he wasn't with other women the other 8 years. For all you know he could have been and just you never found out.
He hasn't contacted you since you broke up a month ago this shows he doesn't care and plus he is not to worried about trying to get you back. If he was serious about you, he would have used that month to do everything in his power to show you that he was sorry. He would be contacting you everyday begging on his knees for forgiveness. Move on with your life you can do so much better.
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reader, amenthyst3356 +, writes (7 July 2011):
Leave him and move on
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