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writes:Firstly, I have been with two partners, and the first was a bit of a bad experience but the second one was a lot better, and when we first started sleeping together after the first few times of nerves I was fine and the sex was great. However, after so long my ability to last just went. I went from being able to last for ages and almost control when I finished, to being lucky if I could make 2 minutes. I have no idea what caused this, but it has really been annoying me, despite her saying it's fine it still gets me down. It confuses me as to why this has happened. Any ideas guys? Or any tips on how to last longer?Also I have recently split up with this girl and am feeling a little nervous about meeting new girls. Not because I am lacking confidence or being scared of meeting new people, but because I don't really want to go to sleep with a new girl and be finished before they've even begun enjoying it!If you guys have any tips on lasting longer or anything I can do outside of the bedroom to help me last longer please let me know. Also does masturbation cause any problems with lasting longer as I have heard a few things about this and obviously if I can do something specific to make it last longer for when I find someone else that would be helpful.Thanks in advance for your answers and help. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): First off, you are normal. When I was your age I could have three orgasms in 30 minutes (by myself). Testosterone is a powerful thing.So, lasting longer means taking your time, and working on your partner's pleasure before you work on your own. She comes first, and she cums first as well.Masters and Johnson did studies where they watched people having sex, lesbian, gay, and heterosexual, committed partners, random partners, etc. All of their subjects were orgasmic.What they found was that the most clinically efficient sex was between partners that were not committed to one another, but efficiently and effectively brought each other to orgasm.But, those who had truly tremendous sexual experiences were those in committed relationships, where they "took their time" and slowly and gently and consistently aroused their partners, paying close attention to their partners responses, and didn't rush things, didn't "push" them forward, but eased them upward to their climaxes. That is what you want to learn to do.By the way, the best partner couples at doing this were gay and lesbian ones, they were much more attentive to each others entire bodies.Ignore a lot of what you hear, read some good books on sex, and learn to weed out the garbage (it will take 10 years or so).
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reader, N91 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Tactical wank an hour or so before sex should do the trick.
I always seemed to last longer when I was masturbating a lot as well. If I didn't do it for a few days, I didn't seem to last as long.
Hope this helps.
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