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writes:f you were going to tell someone how you feel - they've been confusing you so much and you dont know whats going on and you need to explain something about whats been happening with you.is it better to say it to them?oris it better to write it down and have them read it? (while im there)I can see pros and cons for both. By writing it, i can put it down and make sure i hven't missed anything. Saying it i could miss stuff. But saying it he can sense the tone in my voice and see the emotion behind it.I dont want it to be awkward and uncomfortable for either of us.Or is it best to have it written down on paper with me and ask him would you prefer me to say it or would you prefer to read it? if he reads it, i would make sure i would NOT leave it with him! lol. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): Say it, it will be recieved better :)
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reader, pietry  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Make it in a private context, and make sure he is really listening to what you have to say perhaps tell him before that you have something important to say and that you've been thinking a lot about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): ***from original poster***
thank you pietry
your advice makes a lot of sense! I dont want him to laugh it off. It is serious! I will tell him face to face when i finally see him.
thank you
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reader, pietry +, writes (2 January 2009):
Having emotion is normal if you say something this important. Even if you forget something, he will surely get what you mean. Having emotion will make him believe you more, that you are actually feeling what you are saying. Don't be afraid of your emotions they are normal.
If somebody comes to you so relaxed and laughing saying he loves you do you believe him ?
Or if he seems so afraid and emotive and he can almost barely speak ? Which one looks more sincere to you ?
I would say try to tell him and don't be afraid if you forget something.
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