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writes:Hi, my maths teacher fancys me, what should i do to stop him liking me or to make sure nothing at all he trys to do. Also i don't like him, i'm not the person who would start liking a teacher. Plz help if you can. Any help would be great. Thaks to whoever does reply/help. Reply to this Question
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reader, AdviceGiverandReceiver +, writes (19 May 2009):
You're jumping to conclusions. Unless he's touching you on the arm, or saying innapropriate things. Your year seem to want some drama in your school, and are making accusations that can lead to serious consequences which would be unfair for him. If you told school he was acting innapropriately they could make an excuse to fire him if they thought he was dangerous, but he seems harmless. He hasn't DONE anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Just one last comment on this thing. What do you aunties see in any of this that a teacher did anything wrong? We have heard a little girl whining about being "singled out" or something because a teacher "watches" her more closely than he seems to watch others. I have already said that I was a teacher. Believe me, I know when a kid is full of it. You are all being very naive yourselves. You are even encouraging her to accuse a teacher of inappropriate behavior when there has obviously not been any. You should all be ashamed of yourselves!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Just one last comment on this thing. What do you aunties see in any of this that a teacher did anything wrong? We have heard a little girl whining about being "singled out" or something because a teacher "watches" her more closely than he seems to watch others. I have already said that I was a teacher. Believe me, I know when a kid is full of it. You are all being very naive yourselves. You are even encouraging her to accuse a teacher of inappropriate behavior when there has obviously not been any. You should all be ashamed of yourselves!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (22 November 2007):
 If you have any alarm bells going on in your head at all that this teacher is causing you to feel awkward by his innuendo, suggestive looks or anything else that you feel intimidated by then I suggest you go to your Guidance teacher and have a private word with them. It may be nothing but you did say that other pupils have mentioned that he's like this too. (The more witnesses you have the better). Don't keep it to yourself when there IS help available. They will interrogate him enough to find out the truth and I'm POSITIVE it will be enough to make him lay off you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): the person who wrote the top answer, i don't agree with the immature bit cause on paerents evenings i'm told by teachers i'm mature so i don't know what your on about and you can't judge someone by what they write you don't know me in real life. and if you did you'll be shocked of how different i am toward what your saying i am. Another thing i'm that stupid i do know when a teacher does weird and unappropriate stuff when its not meant to be done, by the way i never wrote this question to get criticised and get judeged and i definately didn't ask for you to effend me. and don't make comments about down rating your comment when i havent even been on here for nearly a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Hon, you have a personality clash with your math teacher. But, you are saying he "fancies" you. I don't think so. You are doing some peculiar things in class yourself. Listen, youngen, when you accuse a teacher of "inappropriate behavior", you are making a very serious accusation. I have seen this many times. You have said nothing here that anyone would call inappropriate on this teacher's part. And I know you downrated my answer here. We can tell who did it. I don't care about "points". That is not why we do this. You need to grow up and start acting like a young lady your age should. You are very immature. And I don't usually waste my time with youngens like you. So, consider yourself "special".
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): Your math teacher is a pedofile, and you should tell someone immediatly!!!!This is for your own safty
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reader, cupids angel gl ruby +, writes (11 November 2007):
 tell him that you cant fancy a teacher that its not right that he cn like you as a teacher like he would anyone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni noticed one reply wanted evidence my evidence is all my form class and all my maths class and then even my mates in other classes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would like to add if i did like him i wouldnt find it ok and wouldnt infact want to take the relationship anywere with the teacher i can't even talk to the boy thats the same age as me who i like forget getting into a relationship with a teacher IF i liked him. Which won't happen ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so i said i don't like him so to you people it seems that if i did like him it would be ok. what the hell do you take me for i aint a prostertute, and obviously i wouldn't find it ok otherwise why would i even write this matter/question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, first of all i will like to get this staright i aint thinking any thing its all true and freaky also i don't belive in fantasy even if i did this wouldn't be one of them secondly i'm 14 not 10-12 i've noticed it says i'm 10-12 when i'm not. Third of all he acts different towards me always staring and when starring not in the places your meant to stare, he even told me to stay behind once he asked me which group i wanted to be in which he never asked any one else also teachers are not meant to ask the student what group they want to be in therye meant to predict from there work and knowledge and tests. Another thing i would like to include there are 2 more students who are clevere than me so then why didn't this teacher ask them which group they wana be in and why doesn't he appluase them in very akward ways. Then when i do need help he always says shall i come and sit next to you. also he is a perve nearly all the school says that there was even someone who got in trouble cause of him cause they told the truth about what he does. erm let me add i have him for form and he acts different he gave me my folder i carried on doing my work he goes my name here you go your folder i said ok wat else am i meant to say then he just stands there looking at me, and my friends even said they found that weird. Then he went to sit down at his desk i was sitting right at the back of the class and he stares again why doesn't he look at some one else or everyone to see if there doing there work then teachers are not meant to put music on unless it to do with the work or if it help but he put music on. Anyways infact my favourite subject is maths cause i'm really good at it so its definatly not that i hate maths so i hate the teacher. And don't get me wrong but i aint a kid cause some of the replys i got sound like no one wants to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): Oh, he "fancies" you, does he? And exactly what has he done or said that would give you this knowlege? You said absolutely nothing. You just said, "and I don't like him"....(?) Does that mean that if you *did* like him, it would be alright? I gather you don't like math, either. Math teachers are often "disliked" because most students don't like math. Rather silly, but that is how kids think. And you are a kid, hon, pardon the English. Unless you can give some concrete thing this teacher did or said to you that was out of line, you don't have much truk here, at least not with me. You see, I was a teacher. I know the score. And if he was ever indeed out of line, I am sure it would be known to many others as well. So, where are your "witnesses"? You have to do better than this.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 Just keep this in mind. If your teacher tries anything you let him know that you will not keep quiet about it.
And don't let any threats worry you. If he does threaten you then you go straight to the office and report it.
I am sure though that if he knows that you will not tolerate it he will leave you alone. Doc
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): This is serious matter you are talking about. You must tell someone else like your school counselor because somebody has to stop this abuser. You must go to your school counselor because no teacher should approach a student in any way they feel uncomfortable with.
You should also tell your parents the thing that he is doing that makes you feel uncomfortable. Maybe this teacher person has already abused other kids and is in need of someone who would discipline him the proper way because this is ilegal and he could be prosecuted.
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