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writes:Hey. I don't have a clue what to do. I'm in love with my ex-teacher. He is gorgeous (in my opinion, other girls didn't find him attractive) with lovely brown eyes, is kind and always makes me smile. He taught me in my first year of A-Levels, and it was his first teaching post, all the other students took advantage of this and messed around and didn't do the work. I was the only one to listen and do all my work, he noticed this and we became close. I'd give him advice on teaching and what other teachers did, and he'd always lend an ear to my troubles. I started to notice how gorgeous he was and enevitably fell for him. I think he liked me too at this point, as he showed dislike to my bestfriend (who happened to be male) and he'd stare at me and blush when I caught him and he'd smile and brighten up whenever he saw me.He didn't teach me in my second year of A-Levels as my class complained about his poor teaching abilities (although he was brilliant if you actually listened to him), I was quite upset about this and dropped from an A standard to a C standard. I still saw him often but didn't want to hang around too much incase anyone noticed and he got in trouble as he wasn't my teacher anymore. I missed him.I'm now in my first year of University and still love him. We are friends on facebook and text each other almost daily, we've met up a few times aswell. I really want to be his girlfriend but I'm scared that he will turn me down because of him still being a teacher and me being an ex pupil. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): Since you're in Uni now, I don't see you or your teacher breaking any laws. As you said you both 'met up a few times' and 'text each other almost daily', I suggest you let your friendship grow even more and just show you care for him.
If he shows signs that he wants to pursue your friendship, then go for it. However, if he does not, do not pursue him any longer and move on. You're in Uni and it contains a lot of different guys!
I wish you the best!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 This kind of relationship although challenging is possible.
I knew of someone who left school and then dated her teacher, they got married and had a son and are still together even after 10 years!
I do think that you should recognise this as a crush and try to forge forward with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): I think it's inappropriate for you to still be in touch with him. He risks a lot reputation wise, very early in his career, if he becomes involved with an ex pupil of your age.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Technically as long as you are over the age of 18 then there are no laws to say a teacher cannot date a former student. However there may be some school policies for your teacher friend that state he would be disciplined for doing so - but that will vary depending on the school he works at.
All you can do is talk to your former teacher and tell him how you feel - if you dont say anything then you will probably live to regret that you kept quiet. Yes you might get turned down, but you dont know until you try. At least if you do get turned down you will know for sure that you can never be together and you have to move on.
You are at Uni, you are supposed to be having the time of your life and having lots of fun, not moping around lusting after a former teacher! So make a choice - either tell him how you feel and see what happens, or be happy to remain friends and move on. Dont waste your time wishing you could be his girlfriend and moping about after him - do something about it and get on with life!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Move on.
You will not concentrate on your studies if you are moping about this TEACHER that you left behind.
You are now at university, beginning the next stage of your life. DO NOT look back, look forward.
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