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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, just a quick question. I've been friends with this guy for about a year and every now and then when we're round each other's house we'll spoon/cuddle/hold hands, but never take it any further, and always go back to acting completely normal the next day. He's only stayed over once, when I was drunk in need of looking after (oops), but mostly he'll get up and leave when it gets late. I dunno whether to just disregard this, or think it might lead to something? I feel like bringing it up in conversation would be awkward and probably the wrong thing to do at this stage. But I'm also worried about making a move and coming on too strong, if he only sees it as a bit of innocent cuddling. Thoughts?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 would you spoon/cuddle/hold hands with a girl friend?
then why is it ok with a guy friend?
sounds like boundaries are being crossed.
if you are close enough to be physical with him you should be able to bring it up...
the next time he wants to do any of the above ask him.. what does it mean? why does he do it? where are you going?
that is if you want more than a friendship with him (which I am betting you do)
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 I really didn't know that "only friends" engage in cuddling, holding hands or spooning. It's not common, really. This sounds more like an FWB situation to me, just that you haven't had full-fledged sex. Do you want to have sex with him? Or are you in love with him?
I don't think he's in love with you, really. Atleast not yet. Has he ever tried to take this further? Have you strayed into the realm of sex?
If this bothers you...this display of affection and the strange silence surrounding it, ask him about it. But be prepared to have your heart broken, if what you're looking for is a relationship.
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