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writes: Dear Cupid,Well, my problem is with a girl.I met her when my mate gave me her e-mail address, and so we IM eachother every night now.The problem (well, one of the problems) is that we hardly ever talk in real life, and when we do it's just normal and nothing like when we talk online. Online she's really sweet and funny and sometimes sort of flirty, but in real life she hardly says anything to me and just laughs with her friends.We hang around with the same group of people, so I try and talk to her occasionally, but she's just normal around me like she is with everyone else.The next problem is that when we were telling each other online who we have a crush on, she asked me first and I said "Nobody at the moment" in case she rejected me. She just said, "Oh..." And then she said, "I have a crush on someone, though :)".I really thought she meant me so I tried to act cool and just said, "Lol - who?" and she said it was somebody else, a guy in the year below us! I was disappointed but I decided to give her some advice.I asked her "Does he like talking to you? Does he TRY to talk to you whenever possible?" (these are things I do), and she said "no" to both... Apparently, this is just somebody she's seen around - he doesn't know who she is.I don't know what to do, because I really like her. When she was asking, "Do guys prefer girls to do the asking out?", I said, "Of course - guys are shy too, you know."Should I ask her out before she can get close to this other guy? Or just watch and see what happens?Please help!
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reader, bigb4ever +, writes (8 November 2005):
Hey my friend i'm in the exact same situation as you right now i'd say you should try talking to her more in person i know its hard but if you keep building your friendship mayeb she'll learn to see you in the same way too so let her go for this guy if it is successful then as hard as it maybe you could try getting over her but if it fails then you can help her through it and she'll appreciate the help. Good Luck My Friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2005): Oh gowd reminds me of my first girlfreind, exact same siutuation, i mean EXACT SAME... well i asked her out, big mistake regretted it all through the rest of school.
Anyway, i have this advise that i found out fter this, do not date people form the same school as yourself, and in this case it would probably be best to avoid the whole situation.
Ok so i was shy but managed to ask her out, we did, im kinda shy so it was kinda rigid, anyway after that we mutualy broke up, BUT after that her freinds would treat me like crap, ud get nervous around her and her freinds, and your freindship will preety much be screwed.
Now i say dont date people form the same school for 2 main reasons, 1 - if it doesnt work out, it gets really awkward as you need see them everyday
and 2 - if it does work out, you'll be talkin to her all day at school and exahust your topics ; /
Anyway its your choice, but i say its a bad move, and you should just avoid the whole situation, before it gets bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2005): If you two were going to " click", it would have already happened. Find someone else and move on. She has met you, and obviously is not interested in romance. That is the glory of the internet, where people can try out personas, and see if they like themselves, while being anonymous. It is not unusual for people to be disappointed when they meet in person. Sorry about this. There are others you can meet on the internet. Or, you could meet women the old fashioned way, in person, doing things you enjoy doing.
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