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writes:Heyyy all :)My boyfriend and I split up just over 2 weeks ago now and at the time i was on holiday, it was a long distance relationship and we finished over the distance. At the time i was a bit sad but i just continued with my holiday. However now that i am home, i feel that i am not coping aswell as i was. We have decided to remain friends, because we do get on really well, but i dont really know how to go about this. We have spoke once since and that was to clear the air about the relationship and then we were talking as friends do, which was nice. But my fear now is that i don't want to be talking to him constantly (on the internet) as in like every night because i just feel that that is too much and i will not actually move on. We had a 'lack of conversation' problem when we were together and so now i dont want to talk to him all the time because it will just be the same and will makes things awkward. But i dunno i just feel a bit lost sometimes like i might go online and then think ''should i talk to him? what if we run out of things to say?'' etc.? So i suppose my question is, how should i go about this?There is no tension or anything between us, we have spoke about the relationship and said what we wanted to say but i dont want to say to him ''oh yeah some days i find it hard'' etc, im just not sure if its too soon to be friends with him?Thankyou to anyone who reads and responds to this, i can give more information if you want, i appreciate you taking the time to read this :)
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Right after a break up when the feelings and emotions are still strong I try to have little or no contact with the ex.Over time as the feelings fade/have been replaced it becomes easier to have them as just friends.I just come out and say it.
Its hard for me to talk to you because I still have feelings for you.Can we just not talk for awhile unless there is something important?I`m sorry but I just can`t deal with you at the moment.
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reader, quarky +, writes (17 July 2009):
 My experience of talking to an ex after a break up is that it just prolongs the point where you can move on I'm afraid.
I've found it impossible to be friends after a break up - it brings up feelings that one or both simply don't want anymore.
It'a not easy sometimes to let go but eventually you have to-in my view, the quicker the better.
So my advice would be to stop all contact and move on.
As I say, that's just my experience, others may have different views.
zI wish you well
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