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writes:My ex broke things off with me and a month later his ex-girlfriend said she was pregnant. He married her and now they have 2 children together and now realizes that she is not the one for him. He has apologized to me and admitted his mistakes and would like us to be friends again. I can handle being friends with him, but he treats me like I am his girlfriend instead of just a friend. Should I stop talking to him?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (21 November 2008):
 He appareantly finds comfort in talking to you. However he is married. He should be busy working on his relationship with his wife rather than trying to spend time talking to you. Mind you that having a friend is fine but from what you are saying it seems in his thoughts he is carrying that friendship to close. I would say too close for comfort as it already has you concerned.
My main thought would be the fact that he is married and has two children. Sorry to say hon but he made his bed now he must lie in it. Until the time when he decides that he no longer can be with her and has decided on divorce will his status be changed. He will however still be the Father of two children. That can complicate his relationships in the future.
If you aren't comfortable being a close friend then you have to be the one to step back here. Let him know that you won't be a part of breaking up a home, even if he is ready to go. If he knows he was wrong and he doesn't feel like she's the one....hmmmmmmm...didn't you get that same line or something like it when he broke up with you?
If he's sincere and you want to continue with this relationship you will be best to let it be until he has already moved on. It will be up to him to pursue you in the event that he seperates or better yet divorces the other lady. It's not always a certainty but usually when a partner is married and has children to support it is not likely they will leave.
The kindness in your heart is trying to give him benefit of all doubts I am sure. Take heed that your heart can lead you astray but your consience has to carry any burden of guilt caused by being caught in the middle. It's best to let him stand his grounds before he pulls you in. His bed might not be a good place to be, not even for you, even as his friend. (meaning isn't about BED...it's about his situation.)
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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