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writes:I used to be friends with a ton of girls, but there was a bunch of stupid drama so I became friends with mostly males by the end of high school. I'd hang around them and just chill and play video games or eat or something. When I got to college, got a boyfriend who I've been with for over a year now but we have constant arguments over this issue. He doesn't want me to hang out with any of my old friends because he says it's inappropriate and that guys just think they can get some from me or they have some ulterior motive and that girls and guys simply cannot be friends. I have no past with any of these guy friends and to me they have always been platonic. None of them have expressed any kind of hint they felt more than just friends. I've never been unfaithful, I just miss having friends, since basically all my friends were guys. Am I in the wrong? Am I being immature by wanting to keep all my friends, or is he being unreasonable? Are my guy friends really just sleazeballs?
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (1 April 2009):
 IF your BF is having trouble with you having male friends, why not ask him to tag along with you and the male friends and show him what you guys do when you hang out. It might make him feel a bit more secure in it.Guys and Girls really can JUST BE FRIENDS, the truth is your bf is not trusting of you. Ask him why he is so untrusting (and I hope he doesn't use the line "its not you i dont trust, its them) that line is pureeeeee BS. Get to the bottom of the trust factor and find out ways you can help ease his mind in the whole situation.
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (1 April 2009):
 NO...he's beying unreasonable....ofcourse girls and guys can be friends, even if all your friends are guys...you need to tak to your boyfriend and tell him that he needs to trust you more that you can have friend s too even if they're guys...you need to telll him that you'lll never ever anything unfaithful and he should understand...
even if your guy friends are sleeze bags or not..wich they probly arent,, it doesnt matter, only you can control what you do......
and you gotta understand that things change their minds everyday...so if your guy friends start having feelings toward you, you've got to put them back in their palce
and your boyfriend is half right..i understand where he's coming from..guys are jealous creatures and just seeing with a bunch of guys but not him..makes him want to put up his shield and you in it....maybe he could meet your friends..and you all can hang together..
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