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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Im mid thirties and six weeks ago ended a 3 month relationhip with someone I had totally fallen for as he wasn't really available (he is going through a divorce and his wife wants him back/children). I want to meet someone and thought Id just get back in the swing of things, get out and have fun with my friends etc. I want out on a date last night and couldnt stop thinking about my ex whilst with my date. The date was ok, the guy seems smitten and wants to take me out again. We got on well but I didnt particularly fancy him - do I bother with a second date? I really want to meet someone special as I so would love children with someone. Please help me.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 August 2009):
 I understand that you really want children and to settle down into a serious relationship but you cant just settle for someone on the basis that they are really into you!
Children and marriage will mean so much more with a guy that you truly love and someone who you know is your soulmate. I think you should just tell this guy that took you out that you are going to take a break from dating at the moment because you are not over your ex (honesty is the best policy). Take a couple of months out from dating and give yourself time to get over your ex, you cant force yourself to like someone if your not fully over your last relationship!
It is best to be single for a little while than to string some poor guy along - just think how you would feel if you were in the same position as this guy that took you on a date?! You would rather your date be honest than led on really wouldnt you!
Be true to yourself, and if that connection just isnt there then it is best to be single and wait for the right guy to come along!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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