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*loridaboy15
writes:I am really confused. I am gay and I have been seeing this guy off and on since February. We hung out every weekend in February and then he said he needed some time to concentrate with college work (which I definitely understand due to the intensity of his work). So about two months went by and then we met up again for the weekend and had a great time. We both mutually agree that we are attracted to one another and every time that we hang out we had a great time. He would also send me cute, flirty text messages here and there. He introduced me to all of his college friends as his "friend" which I thought was cute. He told me that he doesn't want to move too fast because all of his "going to fast relationships" burned out. So I take that as a good sign because that must mean that he's still interested in me (he also mentioned if he ever met my parents, which I also took as a sign of deeper interest). Now here's the part where I'm confused. He is now finished college and on summer break (the same for myself). We finished almost two weeks ago. It has been almost 3 weeks since the last time we hung out. The last time we hung out was just wonderful. He gave me a nice kiss and tight hug exclaiming that he would keep in touch. He also thanked me for hanging out with him that weekend. Now, I do understand that he just got home from college and hasn't been home for two months so I figure that comforting himself back home and visiting family might be it. But, I just feel like if he had 100% interest he would at least keep a text conversation like once a week or so (I mean when my friends were starting relationships that's what they did). I did recently text him and asked if he wanted to hang out next week and he responded that he wasn't sure what he was doing yet and that he would let me know back.Am I thinking too deep? Am I approaching a relationship or the subject wrong? Is this his way of taking it slow and not wanting it to burn out? Should I question him the next time I see him? Can anyone help me understand me situation? Thanks much!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 theres taking things slowly and then theres taking them nowhere. call him and say you want to meet, if he says no then i would personally move on as three weeks is wayyy too long to not be in contact with someone you are really into.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 If am honest with you, it does sound like he wants to keep things slow. Maybe he has been hurt badly in the past so for now he is not wanting to get in to anything serious. Allow him to make the arrangements next time, and when you see him just be casual and tell him you like him and you are looking forward to spending more time with him through the summer if that is what he wants as well, and see what he answers. Good luck.
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