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writes:i am in a serious relationship and i am very happy with my boyfriend and very much in love. We got engaged about two months ago and all in all we have a fantastic relationship. He is a very social outgoing guy and his job requires a bit of flirtation to sell but just recently he has started saying things about other girls and iv just gone along with it messing around because i know he's only joking and doing it to wind me up but it has started to get to me and make me feel a bit insecure. i know he absolutely adores me and i know 100 per cent that he would never cheat on me but im worried that my insecurity might push him away. but that insecurity is down to his recent actions. I was wondering what advice people could give me on what to do or how to approach the situation without looking like a moaning insecure girlfriend because when i have previously brought it up, he's just like dont be stupid you know im only winding you up and then it just makes me feel stupid.
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reader, mediocreland  +, writes (25 June 2009):
If you don't want to flat out ask him to stop mentioning it, maybe you should just stop joking along with him. It might be a subtle way for him to realize you don't think it's that funny anymore and he might stop.
Guys are usually slow to notice those sublte things though, so if something like that doesn't work there's not much you can do but tell him its making you feel a little insecure. If you say it makes you feel dumb and insecure it will probably put him in a position to comfort you better than saying he's only winding you up and whatnot.
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