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writes:AUNTS I NEED HELPI'm 22 years old. I shouldn't be suffering this right?I always get a very hard erection anytime anywhereEven very little things can make me hard.. i'm equally attracted to my beautiful girl friendBut recently.. at least i have notice that i find it harder to get and maintains an erection... even when i finally get one.. it seems soft and not so hard as usual..i tried to be relax during sex but i find that i'm a bit nervous which shouldn't be happening because we are already used to each other and have a satisfying sexual experience before now.. i can also say that i'm not or i don't think i'm stressed in any manner or have another issue that is bothering me.. and actually i notice that i don't feel or get that excited when i see an attractive lady like i used to be before... this shouldn't be happening to me because i'm still young and i shouldn't be nervous or something because we already have sex everyday.and don't have any problem..
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 October 2015):
 Im not a guy, but from what I know this happens from time to time. Nothing to worry about! You're NOT experiencing erectile dysfunction, because you DO get an erection. It just seems not as hard as before, and I am sure you're the only one who can notice such small changes.
Then again, the body IS aging. You're not getting younger, and it's normal for the boner to not stand straight up in salute as a man grows older. Doesn't mean you're old, this happens to a lot of young men your age. It's normal. It happens. Embrace it, accept it, adjust to it and continue to have a lovely sex life! In the end, isn't a great sex life all that matters, and not the "strength" of the hard on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2015): Garbo gave some excellent advice, first thing I thought was alcohol or smoking, do you smoke and drink? Is your diet ok?I don't know if I can give the best advice as I'm a woman but I go through times where my libido isn't very high and then at other times it's too high for my liking. But don't worry and fret think you're young and you shouldn't be experiencing this, nobody is the same as anybody else and our bodies react differently at different times and ages.I think because you are thinking so much about the first time it happened you're going to bed already worried about things and that won't help.My ex boyfriend sometimes got like this and then he worried so much which made it worse. I think his was down to smoking and drinking a bit too much. In any case women love foreplay and I personally enjoy that more than sex sometimes, so if you feel like that try and do a lot of foreplay and I'm sure she won't complain.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (16 October 2015):
 You don't specify how long has your "limp" condition been going on so for it to be an erectile dysfunction it would, first, have to be repetitive under various, prolonged, circumstance and in circumstances where you have tried to remedy the situation.
Erection is a mix of things that goes on in your brain, hormones, chemical reactions in cells, emotions, nerves, muscles, blood vessels... So it could be any of these.
Temporarily lulls in libido are common among men. On daily bases, a healthy male experiences a low drive in the evening and high drive in the morning and that is a daily testosterone production cycle. Also, there is a seasonal cycle with libidos higher around November and lower around April but this is not set in stone depending on geography. Your swings between high and low are higher because you are young.
Also, drugs affect erection. Smoking marijuana causes a "limp dick" because a prolonged smoking of pot deforms your testosterone profile in favor of estrogen and that kills erection and causes make boobs or moobs.
Alcohol and too much drinking cause "whiskey dick" because alcohol numbs the brain receptors that read arousal, send wrong signals and numb the veins that are suppose to pump oxygen to your penis. Alcohol also kills your nitric oxide levels, a requirement for erection (that's what viagra boosts) and numbs your nerves at the or is so you feel no sensation.
To boost libido, besides healthy lifestyle, do some exercise, abstain from sex for a period of time, try supplements that boost nitric oxide like pycnogenol or citrulline, focus on other things rather then your erection and do not masturbate nor stare at porn. Give it a month and see what happens.
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