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writes:hey, so my bf of a yr and i tried anal sex for the 1st time as both of us had never tried it b4 and were curious, and it didn't fit! He put a finger there 1st (never experienced that before) which felt ok, but when he tried putting his penis there (going slowly, with lube) he just couldn't get in as i was too tight. He got the tip in at one point, but that was it, even though i was relaxed and ready. He does have a large penis, but we'd like to try again so i'd appreciate advice on how to make it successful next time. Thanks:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): oh dear, being large is not really a factor. Anal is mostly between the ears (the sphincter and rectum can easily take the girth of a large penis). You need to learn how to relax those muscles. That's not easy for some and can take some time and practice. Once you can get turned on enough and loosen up, it comes very easily. You really can take a man the whole way and he can pump you there the same way as vaginally. Once you've been able to do that, usually you can do it again pretty easily and you're set.
It really is a great feeling. Different from vaginal sex and better in some ways. Vaginal sex for me can sometimes get too intense. Anal is less intense but still a very, very nice feeling. I really enjoy it.
So, keep at it. Have your man use one finger, then two, and you stimulate yourself digitally or use something like a bullet vibe. Practice just this over a long time though. Get yourself more used to being anally stimulated. Eventually, it will happen and it is worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): I had the same problem...we had been trying for months and months and could only get as far as the head of his penis, it would hurt so bad. I have been reading everything and anything I could get my hands on, on how to do this right. And seriously, if it hurts at all, you are doing it wrong, and you must stop immediately. I really was beginning to think this was just something I would not be able to do, maybe because he was just too large for me, I don't know. We tried lots of positions/angles, and it just hit that point of being so painful, I couldn't continue. After a lot of trial and error, a ton of patience, it finally worked. Basically, there was a lot of foreplay with his fingers before hand, lots of lube and an extremely slow entry, and I mean sloooooow, he did not make a move without me telling him to continue. And then all of a sudden I could feel with my own hand, he was all the way in. He did not say a word, I think he was utterly shocked it happened. He began moving very slowly and then a little faster. We had to stop to lube again and it was alright. It did not hurt even a bit. It was pretty quick, he came probably in less than five minutes, and for a first time, it really didn't do anything for me except make me sweat a lot from being nervous lol. I had a little feeling, but I don't think it was long enough for me to continue to be aroused. This was a first time for both of us so I think we were both in a state of "did this really just happen?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Lots of lube like everyone else has said, and I agree with the laying on your stomach. Have him get the head in and lube up some more, tell him not to move and swirl ur hips jus a bit to get used to it, once ur ok then have him push a bit deeper and repeat- my bf is long and fat so it took us a while and I can say that I did tear and have some bleeding be careful take it slow only take a little at a time... And whoever wrote about multiple orgasams is right!!!! U cum waterfalls once ur used to it!!!! So the initial pain is well worth the orgasams u r abt to receive!!!!
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (10 July 2011):
Make him get you off first- I've found it is MUCH easier if the girl has already cum once. Also, he needs to use so much lube that he KNOWS it's too much... then a bit more! Mt GF can take me 100% laying on her stomach. She controls the movement, I basically stay still and let her take me in. Make sure you TALK TO HIM as you're taking him into you. Communicate! Tell him when to stop, when to go and when he's in and can start fucking you.
In the right position your G-Spot should get such a going over that you totally loose control and cum like you've never cum before. Keep working the process till you find this magic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): Your anus isn't designed to "pull in." Instead, the muscles are there to "push out." This is why anal sex can be difficult -- even if you are 100 percent relaxed and ready as you say you were.
I don't have a lot of tips as it sounds like you were doing lots of things right, but it IS possible that anal just won't work for you two, especially if he's large.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): You're are not the only people to have done this.
I would suggest using mor lube, i mean a lot more. Start with fingers, as this will loosen you up. Position is everything. What did you try? Many think doggy is the best but for first timers. NO. Plain and simple missionary will do the trick.
Hope i helped. Have fun and many orgasms you 2.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (10 July 2011):
hi usually find that the lube made naturally by your body works best i would try vaginal sex first then before he comes try anal also try lying on the bed flat on your stomach its much easier and less painful :)
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