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writes:(Mod Note - OP's own title) I'm living with this girl. I say girl because she's young. Almost six years younger than me. She's a dunce. A rock. A meatheaded idiot. I've been with her for a couple years, forgiving her idiocy because she was sheltered growing up and because she was enamored with me. Something I mistook for love aaaand she works with me, in the same building, about 12 feet away. We've been through some tough times and helped eachother through some bad patches.Thing is, I can't stand interacting with her anymore because she's so dull. She finishes school in a year and a half but if I throw her out before then she can't afford school and may cause her to tumble into a retard depression that halts her whole life. I don't want to be the guy that did that to her. Also she's rude and about to lose her because of that too. I just feel bad for her now.....What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): You both need to do each other the favor of ending this roommate sharing thing... it's not a relationship... you shouldn't be the guy that leads her on while she's still in school and capable of finding a new guy. Give her a fighting chance to meet someone else who CAN stand her...
As for working with her... sucks to be you I guess... bet you won't do that again...
If she lives a sheltered life, she needs to go back to the shelter for a re-fill. If mommy and daddy took care of her, she can go back to them- your hurting her MORE by not being honest with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): You decided to date her its up to you to break it off with her, so she is not going to be a brain surgeon or major in astrophysics, is that any reason to be nasty and put her down?
Not everyone is super intelligent! we are all different, you have to deal with her nicely.
Tell her its not working, you dont feel you get along anymore, you need space and leave, dont be nasty or mean,dont put her down and dont tell her shes stupid!! thats nasty, just end it kindly and quickly. That would be the nicer thing to do, she may not know how she appears to other people which is why she may appear rude, if she has been very sheltered in her life she will have no insight on how to act in public or with ppl, or how to be polite and have conversation, she needs guidance, not anger and nastiness. Be nice and end it, the school isssue is only your problem if you agreed to pay for all her schooling if so, pay for it and be done with it. LEt her get on with her life.
But... agree with the other poster, you sound very judgemental, intolerant and insensitive, yes look in yrself in the mirror, are you so perfect?! not everyone is the same!!
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Oh, gee that sucks! For her too, coz it seems she is stuck with rude, insensitive, callous, mean, and a pile of other words I best not write.
What can you do? Hmm, how about go take a good hard look in the mirror at how you are presenting yourself before judging her so harshly.
You're not painting yourself out as the catch of the century either from where I am sitting.
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