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writes: I just recently contacted on old friend that I found on facebook. One of his facebook friends is the woman who I lost my virginity to. I was 19 and she was in her 20s. When we were together I lied to her and told her I wasn't a virgin. I was embarrassed. We only did it once and it was a horrible expierience for me. I had trouble getting an erection and it was very embarrassing for me. She was so sweet to me and nice that she made me feel much better. I thought about her the next day and I got to feeling very insecure and inadequate. She had been in a few relationships and she had sex with other guys. I didn't think I could measure up. I didn't call her back for a while and finally she called me. I told her that I didn't want to see her any more and I never told her the truth. She thought that I just used her for sex. That's not true at all. She's married now and so am I. My wife doesn't like me contacting exgirlfriends and gets jealous easily. I really feel that I need to tell her the truth because she deserves to know that she really wasn't used for sex and that I just wasn't man enough to tell her the truth. I have thought about how I made her feel for years. Should I contact her and tell her the truth or should I let sleeping dogs lie? How do I tell my wife that I just want to close a chapter on my life of something I am not proud of at all and that there is no need for her to be jealous? It's been a long time ago. Should I just not dig up an old wound? I want to ease my conciense I don't want to cause her problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): let it go, your relationship with your wife is FAR more important. Plus, you run the risk of her not even remembering... all these years later she's probably let it gone... you on the other hand have not.
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