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writes:Can you ever be 'just friends' with someone you instantly fall for, and they appear to feel the same?We text eachother sometimes, but I am almost finding it too difficult, I almost feel like saying it's all or nothing as it's torture to be friends with him as I have fallen for him (esp as we used to be soo close), yet I don't want to lose him altogether. Part of the problem is that i have been single for ages and want to date, and he needs a break as had a relationship past 5 years. I don't know what to do, I'm angry and sad constantly at the moment, yet I'm pining for him. Any advice? x
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reader, calamitysil  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 I reckon you should keep in touch with him, but at the same time start building up your social life. Go out and have fun to stop you wallowing and pining for him. What this man needs right now is a good friend and no pressure. The last thing you want to be is his girlfriend on the rebound. Love should never be hurried. I learned that to my cost! Good luck ;-)
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 November 2007):
 I think you should not rush it, if there is something there between the pair of you let it materialise in its own good time. As you say he needs a break as he has just come out of a relationship, so ultimately he won't want to rush into anything just yet. Keep going the way you are going, keep being friends and don't push things at this time. I think that some of the best relationships stem from being friends first, so hang in there and remember that good things come to those who wait.
Good luck x
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