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writes:After a relationship of more than a year, my girlfriend and I broke up on tuesday. She said she didn't know what she wanted anymore and that she couldn't talk about it. After a two hour talk she/we finally decided to end things. This break-up happened after a holiday with her and her parents, where we had a fight.We had our disagreements in the relationship, but nothing extraordinary that can't be fixed. I talked to her last night on facebook and she said she still didn't know what she was thinking and that she was struggling with her emotions. She hasn't changed our relationship status yet. Me wanting to talk about it (after 3 days of silent treatment)on tuesday made her make a decision. I still love this girl enormously, although she treated me very badly: she didn't talk to me for three days on a holiday with her parents after a discussion, which was an extremely painful situation for me. I seriously don't know what to do. I said her I wanted to give her time last night, but she simply does not react to this. The confusing part is no more than a week ago she said she loved me very much and that she never wanted to loose me. I did not suspect any change in her behaviour whatsoever a week ago. She was looking very much in love and we were cuddling and kissing a lot. I am certain there is no other guy involved.
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reader, PatientMiss  +, writes (16 April 2013):
Girls generally don't break up with someone suddenly, it is usually something that has brewed for a while, the argument may be an easy thing to point the finger at but I doubt that is the reason. Despite popular assumptions most girls I know find it very hard to voice their feelings, it's easier to say 'I can't talk about it' because the words in your head just won't come out, or may come out the wrong way.I agree - give her space, let her have no doubt how much you love her, and that you are there for her. Good luck!
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (12 April 2013):
Dear OP,
I really think the best you can do is give her time and space. Not only time to think about your relationship, but also time to realise whether she misses you or not.
It takes a lot of strength to do this, I know, but if you give in to your desire to contact her and ask for a second chance, a new decision, whatever, she will only feel pressured and push you away.
It might be helpful to think again about what you've been fighting about. Maybe she didn't give you the silent treatment on purpose, maybe she was just to upset or hurt to say anything that would make the situation better. I assume it must have been very painful for her as well.
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